America has slowly begun to acknowledge that for many people, gender is not easily defined as either male or female. And state governments are moving to recognize that fact by giving residents the option of a third gender identifier, neither exclusively male or female.-
I feel growing up in the 1960's and 70's there was,what I call forced " masculinity " for young boys,the Vietnam War was raging on,the draft was in place,at 16 we had to go to post-office sign up for "selective service"-the Law-,thus ever earlier in youth we played with fake guns,pretend war in our neighbor hood "battle grounds". We must be real men!, and if you want to be more like a female,you better hide-it
To a degree I might of been one of the most Homophobic/transphobic person Alive !, that is in terms of being discovered,especially after age 13,when already had been "another boy's girlie-friend",already had another boy's penis up in my bottom and in my mouth,"acting like a girl",a sissy!,yet at the same time liking and wishing to be a sissy,another boy's girl friend.
I even remember thinking,do I want to be a sissy/girl so I don't have to go to Vietnam-yet that didn't fit,as I could do my duty,and play the "role" of soldier,and tough guy,even though I never liked being,or have ever outwardly tried to be "Masculine".- I would put "Gender X on my pass port/drivers lic. → on the basis ,I am sexually and pyschological female like and can't,change that.
Being a "Effeminate" male in America,and being a soldier wasn't a "cool idea",thus forced to be non-Effeminate,or forced to be masculine
Social construction of masculinity
Social scientists conceptualize masculinity (and femininity) as a performance. Gender performances may not necessarily be intentional and people may not even be aware of the extent to which they are performing gender, as one outcome of lifelong gender socialization is the feeling that one's gender is "natural" or biologically-ordained.
The social construction of gender also conceptualizes gender as a continuum. Theorists suggest one is not simply masculine or feminine, but instead may display components of both masculinity and femininity to different degrees and in particular contexts.
Masculine performance varies over the life course, but also from one context to another. For instance, the sports world may elicit more traditionally normative masculinities in participants than would other settings. Men who exhibit a tough and aggressive masculinity on the sports field may display a softer masculinity in familial contexts. Masculinities vary by social class as well. Studies suggest working class constructions of masculinity to be more normative than are those from middle class men and boys. As these contexts and comparisons illustrate, theorists suggest a multiplicity of masculinities, not simply one single construction of masculinity.- -wikipedia
excerpts from above site:Gender is socially constructed and a result of sociocultural influences throughout an individual's development (Schneider, Gruman & Coutts, 2005). Gender identity can be affected by, and is different from one society to another depending on the way the members of society evaluate the role of females and males.
♠ The idea of social construction of gender sees society, not biological sex differences, as the basis for gender identity (Anderson, Logio & Taylor, 2005). There are many different processes by which the expectations associated with being a boy or a girl is passed on through society. For instance one could see this from the moment a child comes into the world and from the fact that he/she has to face a "blue" or "pink" reality. I recently attended a baby shower party and I was shocked first by the amount of items a baby needs and even more about the color choice of each item. Everything was pink, as a baby girl was expected, and honestly I never imaged how many different shades of pink actually exist for products such as baby clothes. The house decoration was pink, people were wearing pink or pastel colors, all the gift wrappers pink as well as the gifts themselves. My gift was one of the few items of a different color, as I chose yellow and light purple items, which was actually a challenging task to find as most of the items in the store I shopped were blue or pink. The social construction of gender could be further been seen by the way parents behave to their children, by their expectations about how their children should behave and act, and by the toys they buy for them. For example girls are supposed to play with dolls and be sweet and emotional and boys are supposed to play with action figures and be aggressive and rational. Therefore clothes, toys, and even the language used with young children follow the trend of stereotyping gender. Children learn by modeling and the messages they receive and act accordingly. An example similar to the dress code we having for children can also be seen with adults, particularly in the colors, fabrics and designs specific to each gender. Another example is the situation of a female working in the business field that is expected to dress in masculine way in order to be considered successful and to be taken more seriously. This could demonstrate again how social influences affect gender expectations and shape behaviors and norm regarding gender.
♠ Society constructs our gender and categorizes its members similar as it does with age, ethnicity, race, social class and status. However the categorization according to gender is another way of manipulating members of a society and to promote inequalities. There are obvious biological and anthropological differences between the two sexes but we cannot use these differences to infer conclusions and provide stereotyped models about gender. As mentioned in the beginning sexism is the term that accounts for gender discrimination and has different forms. One of them already mentioned is benevolent sexism characterized by positive but stereotyped views of women. Contrarily another form is hostile sexism which is characterized by negative stereotypical views towards women. For instance hostile sexism views of women are centered on beliefs that women are inferior to men due to superficial views that one can hold again women. Lastly another form of sexism is ambivalent sexism which holds views of both hostile and benevolent sexist attitudes simultaneously (Schneider, Gruman & Coutts, 2005). However no matter the form, sexism has overall negative consequences and results in stereotyping women, and even prejudice and discrimination. The United States of America and other developed countries have come a long way in trying to eliminate discrimination against women but there is still a room for improvement. Gender as mentioned above results from sociocultural influences. Research and theory derived from social psychology could be able to develop appropriate interventions that could target a vast range of individuals and institutions in order to promote equality of genders and eliminate gender discriminations.
♠ Additionally cultural and religious beliefs and attitudes have a serious impact on gender identity and in many cases promote stereotype beliefs against women and lead to gender discrimination. When it comes to culture and religious influences in a society regarding the view of gender I believe the concept of institutionalized sexism is appropriate to describe this situation. Institutionalized sexism is the sexist attitudes that are held by the vast majority of people living in a society where stereotypes and discrimination are the norm (Aronson, Wilson, & Akert, 2011). When a society has specific norms people living within the society will adapt to them and they will do the same even for discriminatory norms. For instance when a society, due to religious and cultural reasons, view women as weak or inferior people living within the society will develop the same views and will act accordingly. One can see this for example in many Muslim countries and also with different religious groups, even in our own country. People tend to conform to their group and will do the same even when they engage in discriminatory behaviors as they want to fit in and be accepted by their group which is known as normative conformity (Aronson, Wilson, & Akert, 2011). -If your a boy growing up.in the 1960's middle America-and wanted to hang out and play with the girls,be part of their group ,that was a No,No, where I grew-up!,and I was that boy.(a sissy-boy at heart,but had to hide it) By age 14, having had by this time, sex with another boy,in the role of "his girl friend"(my self routinely performing fellatio on him,and he anally penetrating me with his penis and and ejaculating in my bottom)..yet very much had to secret,and thus shameful,yet I wanted to be a "Girl"
♠ From my experience as a youth, once the rumors spread that I was a -Sissy-,that I was "sucking another boy's cock,getting boned by him etc." It was the girls whom openly made fun of me, was this the Female Ego, gone astray?and how did Social morals/beliefs construct it so "if I was doing what I was doing "being in the role of girl,with another boy,-that I ,should be publicly humiliated-, Many boys might ask me privately," are you gay,etc ?",yet in a private way,and not in harming way." Even today I ask myself "where did the girls get the Notion to Humiliate, a boy for being Fem-like? "
♠ Maybe a silly scenario yet true- " What if your a Female,and you find yourself in the company of a large group of Fem-males,like myself. From my point of view,you should feel safe that you will "Not Get Raped",cause it just wouldn't happen!
♠ On the other hand if your a Male,and straight,and you find yourself in a group of Fem-males like myself,by your choose you might get to "Bone us all",it's up to you and each individual one of us.
♠ If one reads my page " First Contact ", prior to to actually having sex with this other male student,in a short time frame,due to the fact he had publicly showed me attention,and other students where aware he had..told me he is "Gay", I still was really Naïve, to what gay really meant,why it was something "bad".Once I began having sex with him(performing fellatio on him,and him mounting and ejaculating in my bottom-which I call the female role)I don't recall feeling bad about what he and I where doing,I just felt like it was the right role for me,I liked it a lot being his "sissy-boy.girlie- boyfriend ,whatever, I wanted to be in that "Role"- our normal was he played Boy role and I played girl role-
♠ I do know Human being are the only Animals that sneak away,and hide to have sex!,however lets say it wasn't illegal, or immoral to have sex where others might see, in the case of my friend and I,it would have been clearly seen- "Michael is playing the role of female"-
♠ Another thing at that time, in the school,many teachers heard students calling me "gay" openingly in the halls and classroom,yet None addressed it in anyway!-simply looked away. Sure that has been 40 some years, how far have we come?,what if it was accepted amongst my society - Michael is a third-gender/Fem-male type person whom identifies sexual as female? Would I have any need to change my appearance?,could I wear dresses to school ?,date other boys,whom might like me?,maybe have a uni-sex individual shower?,maybe be able to be with girls in gym classes etc. to some degree or for example I had life saving (life-guard training) in high school,which was co-ed.I personally never liked the "open shower idea" because I have always felt like I was a girl in the boy's shower.Even in High school,I felt ,I really should be in the girls shower,not that I had to control getting a erection when seeing the others guys nude,I guess I feel vunerable,due to fact I am attracted sexually to males,and could suddenly maybe see a male that excites me,and have that happen,then be embarrassed and it is not right to the other males,that I am showering with them.(I never took showers at schools again,after "first contact").
♠ My identity I had to greatly suppress,as to try to be a traditional husband/father,all the while wanting to be in the role as "Wife"..Wanting to be a man's girlie-boy friend again-craving to have his cock in my bottom and mouth,as a fem-male,wanting to dress sexy for him.
♠ A big part of wanting to write this out, in detail as how it is like to be a Fem-male, stems from the fact yhat I have searched the "Internet Over" and have yet to find where any one truly,clearly explains what it is like to feel like a transgender/Fem-male,especially in the sexual aspect.Sure there is a lot of "Fem-dom",stuff,which to me is largely based on Humiliation.Believe me if I was posing with a man in Life Drawing class,and the class wish to see him "boning me",and I was attracted to him in that way,I would gladly let him "bone me" and hope fully the class wasn't doing it to Humiliate me,as it wouldn't. Unless they somehow,treated me disrespectfully,then I would exit the class. Yet in real Life,we can't "Exit the Class". In my opinion Shaming/humiliation is a very serious under-taking,and should only be used for correcting some one whom has committed a "Wrong"
♠ One of the toughest things to over-come with Straight guys that I had routinely been performing fellatio on, was to get them to "Bone me" then ejactulate in my bottom ,due to fact it was a homosexual act,only by convincing them that I truly wanted to be a female,felt as though should have been,having them call me "Michelle",wearing thigh-highs,dresses etc,Some would finally start "boning me",some never would. And for society to take the Straight male and Fem-male relationship,not as a traditional male/male relationship-thus gay,whatever gay really means, only time will tell. Yet,believe me,I wouldn't call the men whom I was with ,gay or homosexuals," they where simply Straight guys boning a Fem-male "
♠ So being "Fem-male",I can fake not being,yet it is a mental state which I can't shake!
♠ This is a clear reason, I want to cover " Gender Identity " in my study of "Pre-Conconcieved Notions", because it so clearly defines how society shapes our view of the World,closes our minds,puts us in a "Box", says be like "This" or else!
I found this on a website,and it is what I feel is a big "Psychological Need " for people like myself whom are Psychologicallyin some form of "Gender dysphoria" - Assert Your Identity:
Some of us have much more freedom to do this than others. Even when we are not able to display our preferred gender in public, it can be immensely affirming to find some way – any way – to channel our dysphoric feelings into external expression. It could be something very small, something that is not usually gendered but that has personal significance for you. For me, it’s a silver ring that I sometimes wear on my right index finger.
Asserting your pronouns can be very empowering, as can modifying your appearance.Makeup, contouring, binding and packing can be helpful. Wearing items that shape the body and simulate our desired sex characteristics feels great for many people. Self-expression through fashion can also be radically empowering, and I’ve always taken solace in simply changing my hair and clothing. A button down can help me feel more comfortable in my own skin, and more than once I’ve shaved my head as a way of telling to the world that I am being misunderstood.More permanent forms of body modifications can also provide powerful relief. Every time I get a tattoo or a piercing I feel more like my true self. Making alterations to my flesh empowers me to feel in command of my body, and capable of shaping it in ways that better express who I am. This alleviates gender dysphoria and nurtures radical self-love by bringing my authentic self to the forefront of my self-perception, and by holding space for my gender identity to manifest itself physically.
The thing that bothers me the most is the "Assuming" that just because someone is " Psychologically a Fem-male" they wish to under go a sex change surgery, number one it is seldom affordable to most,(if you where say a person living in the 1800's,it was even a operation that could be performed).Also I think many transgender people have their own unique degree of "Psychologically Need " to be in the role they identify with,for example , my "Psychologically Need " is to be female like when sexually with a man,to appear female like to him,to the best of my ability. Socially,in Community,it might be called,sure I like to be known that my "Indentity" is "Fem-male". So how does one deal with this realistically?.(without a sex-change)...??..
I think it is helpful to remember: Plato's idea of "Time and Change: The world of the Forms is eternal and unchanging. Time and change belong only to the lower sensory world. "Time is a moving image of Eternity".for myself " the "Essense of a being",,kinda can be seen as "I may look 55 years old,feel it,yet in my mind I can be 25 or 100.The idea of being Manly etc, is very much not a want or Psychologically Need of mine.
A example, of say " Some one mentioned "mathematics" was a universal knowledge.idea,thus societially,from a metaphysics stand point,this can't be true.
Your Evolution as a Transgender Woman /reneereyes.com
It’s not exactly a scientific term, but it’s not a bad word, either. Some prefer simply “woman,” others like saying “chick with a d***,” but most of us know them as shemales. And although you may think that you know what is a shemale, it’s actually much more complicated than those girls with penises that you can see in pornographic movies.
In order to really answer the question “what is a shemale,” we have to take a look into the shemale meaning and its role in the transgender community. By doing that, we can also take a peek into what it is like to date a shemale and which things are or aren’t smart to do if your partner happens to be one.
Contrary to popular belief, not all transgender people are shemales, but all shemales are transgender. If it’s still unclear, here’s another take on the true shemale meaning: a shemale is actually a trans woman who possess male genitalia but all of her other features are that of a female.
For example, a man with a vagina isn’t a shemale, but a woman with a penis is. A shemale has a penis and possibly a scrotum, but that’s the end of her similarities with men – she also has breasts and an accented behind, face and hair, just like any other woman would.
In science, the term “shemale” is only used in biology and not that frequently. It refers to male animals that display some characteristics that normally belong to females, such as traits or behaviors. One example are male reptiles that sometimes produce female pheromones.
Now, back to humans. Generally, the word itself is considered offensive in the real world. It’s very rare for a trans-woman to not have a problem if someone refers to her as a shemale, seeing as this term is most often used in the pornographic industry as well as in sex work.
It’s not that big of a mystery as to where this word comes from. It’s pretty simple – “she” as in a woman and “male” as in male genitalia. There are some well-known synonyms for “shemale,” such as “tranny” or the plural “chicks with d****,” as well as some less-known like “sluts with nuts” and the Japanese “hafu,” which directly translates to “half.”
Ever since medicine and plastic surgery evolved, it can be really hard to tell a woman from a trans-woman – or in other words, to differentiate a female from a shemale. This is why online dating presents itself as the easiest and fastest way of finding a shemale for a date or a hookup.
Drag Queen- Violet
I think personally for myself,I "Imagined myself as Female" most of my life,wished to appear Fem-like,for example I found myself looking in the mirror often,posing as this:
For example for myself,it is very important "Not" to be -erect-,I want my penis as small as possible,I personally have no need to be erect to have a orgasm,and never have when "mounted by a man" or performing "fellatio",I personal don't desire for my penis to be touched,I don't allow men or women to perform "fellatio" on me,
I personally wouldn't,or have desire any type surgery
I don't like body hair,if was "cure" for that!- I would do it.
The only thing that ever appealed to me about hormone therapy is -some growth in breasts-,and- reduction in penis size-
I often wonder if females(at least the in-educated,un-empathtic ones) in modern times aren't the biggest problem against Fem-males,gays, all transgender types. I do know when I was 13,and the rumors spread thru school ,that I liked a boy,,it was the girls whom where openly making fun of me,and seemingly spreading the "News".
In many cultures, displaying characteristics not typical of one's gender may be a social problem. In sociology, this labeling is known as gender assumptions and is part of socialization to meet the mores of a society. Non-standard behavior may be considered indicative of homosexuality, despite the fact that gender expression, gender identity and sexual orientation are widely accepted as distinct concepts.[when?][where?] When sexuality is defined in terms of object choice (as in early sexology studies), male homosexuality is interpreted as effeminacy. Social disapproval of excessive masculinity may be expressed as "machismo" or by neologisms such as "testosterone poisoning".
The relative importance of socialization and genetics in the development of masculinity is debated. Although social conditioning is believed to play a role, psychologists and psychoanalysts such as Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung believed that aspects of "feminine" and "masculine" identity are subconsciously present in all human males.[a]
The historical development of gender roles is addressed by behavioural genetics, evolutionary psychology, human ecology, anthropology and sociology. All human cultures seem to encourage gender roles in literature, costume and song; examples may include the epics of Homer, the Hengist and Horsa tales and the normative commentaries of Confucius. More specialized treatments of masculinity may be found in the Bhagavad Gita and the bushidō of Hagakure.
I do know now,looking back, -That oppressing one's gender identity is a very,very dangerous game we are "Playing",in more ways then are clear and present!-
I thought of the "Life Guard" scenario- (I was trained and certified to be a life-guard@17 years old)
"The day was beautiful,sunny,and hot,great day for swimming on the Lake,all day two males stuck out to me , they were friends always together,yet very opposite personalities,one very macho like,ego driven,not kind and caring of others,the Other was kind,caring. I look out across the Lake,see to individuals far out beyond the safety buoy's,I grab my binoculars,,spot "Them",the macho one is in "distress",the Kind one is headed to help,,,a bad,bad situation in open water,for a untrained individual to try to help a person in distress, Now I have two potential drowning victims,I am the only life guard on duty,I yell everybody "out" of water now! with mega-phone,grab my "recue can" and dive in, and head out for the two,all the while,in my mind,I am thinking- "today there is going to be a drown victim,it's to far,and the Kind one maybe the "Victim". sure enough by the time close to them,the macho one was tightly gripping the Kind one,as they both submerged,the water was luckly clear,and I could see underwater the macho one release his grip,push off the kind one,sending him to the depth's-I head for the Kind one,reach him,pull him to surface,as I watch the macho one drown." next time you think about being in-kind, maybe remember this story,,you see I had to "select that day,whom lives,whom dies!
I think the above site is interesting look at whats going on culturally in regards to male Feminization,and a harm-ful one!
There is a crisis in modern masculinity, with men struggling to deal with pressures in their personal and professional lives, according to a report by the mental health charity CALM (the Campaign Against Living Miserably).
The report, published to coincide with International Men's Day (November 19), seeks to address the reasons why male suicide rates in Britain are at a 15-year high (around 4,500 last year). Suicide is now the single biggest cause of death in men aged 20-49 in England and Wales, with males accounting for 78 per cent of all suicides in the UK. Female suicide rates, in comparison, are declining.
The CALM report, A Crisis in Modern Masculinity: Understanding the Causes of Male Suicide, analysed the pressures and expectations that men and women face in their daily lives, and concluded that men are failing to cope, as well as keeping their problems hidden from others.
Roughly half of all the 1,000 men and women surveyed said they had experienced some form of depression, yet women were much more likely to seek help or confide in a friend. 74pc of women who had suffered depression said they had spoken to someone about it, while only 53pc of males had done so. 69pc of men who had suffered depression said they preferred to deal with the problem themselves.
Personally if in a close relationship with a male or female,sexual or non-sexually,I need to be able to tell them I am a "Fem-male",and clearly define my belief,and a big part of that is "the only males I select to have sex with are -Str8/Cis-gender,heterosexually men-,and my role is 100% percent female like" " I am a sexual alternative to a real female,I have told some people!