America has slowly begun to acknowledge that for many people, gender is not easily defined as either male or female. And state governments are moving to recognize that fact by giving residents the option of a third gender identifier, neither exclusively male or female.-
I feel growing up in the 1960's and 70's there was,what I call forced " masculinity " for young boys,the Vietnam War was raging on,the draft was in place,at 16 we had to go to post-office sign up for "selective service"-the Law-,thus ever earlier in youth we played with fake guns,pretend war in our neighbor hood "battle grounds". We must be real men!, and if you want to be more like a female,you better hide-it
To a degree I might of been one of the most Homophobic/transphobic person Alive !, that is in terms of being discovered,especially after age 13,when already had been "another boy's girlie-friend",already had another boy's penis up in my bottom and in my mouth,"acting like a girl",a sissy!,yet at the same time liking and wishing to be a sissy,another boy's girl friend.
I even remember thinking,do I want to be a sissy/girl so I don't have to go to Vietnam-yet that didn't fit,as I could do my duty,and play the "role" of soldier,and tough guy,even though I never liked being,or have ever outwardly tried to be "Masculine".- I would put "Gender X on my pass port/drivers lic. → on the basis ,I am sexually and pyschological female like and can't,change that.
Being a "Effeminate" male in America,and being a soldier wasn't a "cool idea",thus forced to be non-Effeminate,or forced to be masculine
Social construction of masculinity
Social scientists conceptualize masculinity (and femininity) as a performance. Gender performances may not necessarily be intentional and people may not even be aware of the extent to which they are performing gender, as one outcome of lifelong gender socialization is the feeling that one's gender is "natural" or biologically-ordained.
The social construction of gender also conceptualizes gender as a continuum. Theorists suggest one is not simply masculine or feminine, but instead may display components of both masculinity and femininity to different degrees and in particular contexts.
Masculine performance varies over the life course, but also from one context to another. For instance, the sports world may elicit more traditionally normative masculinities in participants than would other settings. Men who exhibit a tough and aggressive masculinity on the sports field may display a softer masculinity in familial contexts. Masculinities vary by social class as well. Studies suggest working class constructions of masculinity to be more normative than are those from middle class men and boys. As these contexts and comparisons illustrate, theorists suggest a multiplicity of masculinities, not simply one single construction of masculinity.- -wikipedia
I found this on a website,and it is what I feel is a big "Psychological Need " for people like myself whom are Psychologicallyin some form of "Gender dysphoria" - Assert Your Identity:
Some of us have much more freedom to do this than others. Even when we are not able to display our preferred gender in public, it can be immensely affirming to find some way – any way – to channel our dysphoric feelings into external expression. It could be something very small, something that is not usually gendered but that has personal significance for you. For me, it’s a silver ring that I sometimes wear on my right index finger.
Asserting your pronouns can be very empowering, as can modifying your appearance.Makeup, contouring, binding and packing can be helpful. Wearing items that shape the body and simulate our desired sex characteristics feels great for many people. Self-expression through fashion can also be radically empowering, and I’ve always taken solace in simply changing my hair and clothing. A button down can help me feel more comfortable in my own skin, and more than once I’ve shaved my head as a way of telling to the world that I am being misunderstood.More permanent forms of body modifications can also provide powerful relief. Every time I get a tattoo or a piercing I feel more like my true self. Making alterations to my flesh empowers me to feel in command of my body, and capable of shaping it in ways that better express who I am. This alleviates gender dysphoria and nurtures radical self-love by bringing my authentic self to the forefront of my self-perception, and by holding space for my gender identity to manifest itself physically.
The thing that bothers me the most is the "Assuming" that just because someone is " Psychologically a Fem-male" they wish to under go a sex change surgery, number one it is seldom affordable to most,(if you where say a person living in the 1800's,it was even a operation that could be performed).Also I think many transgender people have their own unique degree of "Psychologically Need " to be in the role they identify with,for example , my "Psychologically Need " is to be female like when sexually with a man,to appear female like to him,to the best of my ability. Socially,in Community,it might be called,sure I like to be known that my "Indentity" is "Fem-male". So how does one deal with this realistically?.(without a sex-change)...??..
I think it is helpful to remember: Plato's idea of "Time and Change: The world of the Forms is eternal and unchanging. Time and change belong only to the lower sensory world. "Time is a moving image of Eternity".for myself " the "Essense of a being",,kinda can be seen as "I may look 55 years old,feel it,yet in my mind I can be 25 or 100.The idea of being Manly etc, is very much not a want or Psychologically Need of mine.
A example, of say " Some one mentioned "mathematics" was a universal knowledge.idea,thus societially,from a metaphysics stand point,this can't be true.
Your Evolution as a Transgender Woman /reneereyes.com
It’s not exactly a scientific term, but it’s not a bad word, either. Some prefer simply “woman,” others like saying “chick with a d***,” but most of us know them as shemales. And although you may think that you know what is a shemale, it’s actually much more complicated than those girls with penises that you can see in pornographic movies.
In order to really answer the question “what is a shemale,” we have to take a look into the shemale meaning and its role in the transgender community. By doing that, we can also take a peek into what it is like to date a shemale and which things are or aren’t smart to do if your partner happens to be one.
Contrary to popular belief, not all transgender people are shemales, but all shemales are transgender. If it’s still unclear, here’s another take on the true shemale meaning: a shemale is actually a trans woman who possess male genitalia but all of her other features are that of a female.
For example, a man with a vagina isn’t a shemale, but a woman with a penis is. A shemale has a penis and possibly a scrotum, but that’s the end of her similarities with men – she also has breasts and an accented behind, face and hair, just like any other woman would.
In science, the term “shemale” is only used in biology and not that frequently. It refers to male animals that display some characteristics that normally belong to females, such as traits or behaviors. One example are male reptiles that sometimes produce female pheromones.
Now, back to humans. Generally, the word itself is considered offensive in the real world. It’s very rare for a trans-woman to not have a problem if someone refers to her as a shemale, seeing as this term is most often used in the pornographic industry as well as in sex work.
It’s not that big of a mystery as to where this word comes from. It’s pretty simple – “she” as in a woman and “male” as in male genitalia. There are some well-known synonyms for “shemale,” such as “tranny” or the plural “chicks with d****,” as well as some less-known like “sluts with nuts” and the Japanese “hafu,” which directly translates to “half.”
Ever since medicine and plastic surgery evolved, it can be really hard to tell a woman from a trans-woman – or in other words, to differentiate a female from a shemale. This is why online dating presents itself as the easiest and fastest way of finding a shemale for a date or a hookup.
Drag Queen- Violet
I think personally for myself,I "Imagined myself as Female" most of my life,wished to appear Fem-like,for example I found myself looking in the mirror often,posing as this:
For example for myself,it is very important "Not" to be -erect-,I want my penis as small as possible,I personally have no need to be erect to have a orgasm,and never have when "mounted by a man" or performing "fellatio",I personal don't desire for my penis to be touched,I don't allow men or women to perform "fellatio" on me,
I personally wouldn't,or have desire any type surgery
I don't like body hair,if was "cure" for that!- I would do it.
The only thing that ever appealed to me about hormone therapy is -some growth in breasts-,and- reduction in penis size-
I often wonder if females(at least the in-educated,un-empathtic ones) in modern times aren't the biggest problem against Fem-males,gays, all transgender types. I do know when I was 13,and the rumors spread thru school ,that I liked a boy,,it was the girls whom where openly making fun of me,and seemingly spreading the "News".
In many cultures, displaying characteristics not typical of one's gender may be a social problem. In sociology, this labeling is known as gender assumptions and is part of socialization to meet the mores of a society. Non-standard behavior may be considered indicative of homosexuality, despite the fact that gender expression, gender identity and sexual orientation are widely accepted as distinct concepts.[when?][where?] When sexuality is defined in terms of object choice (as in early sexology studies), male homosexuality is interpreted as effeminacy. Social disapproval of excessive masculinity may be expressed as "machismo" or by neologisms such as "testosterone poisoning".
The relative importance of socialization and genetics in the development of masculinity is debated. Although social conditioning is believed to play a role, psychologists and psychoanalysts such as Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung believed that aspects of "feminine" and "masculine" identity are subconsciously present in all human males.[a]
The historical development of gender roles is addressed by behavioural genetics, evolutionary psychology, human ecology, anthropology and sociology. All human cultures seem to encourage gender roles in literature, costume and song; examples may include the epics of Homer, the Hengist and Horsa tales and the normative commentaries of Confucius. More specialized treatments of masculinity may be found in the Bhagavad Gita and the bushidō of Hagakure.
I do know now,looking back, -That oppressing one's gender identity is a very,very dangerous game we are "Playing",in more ways then are clear and present!-
I thought of the "Life Guard" scenario- (I was trained and certified to be a life-guard@17 years old)
"The day was beautiful,sunny,and hot,great day for swimming on the Lake,all day two males stuck out to me , they were friends always together,yet very opposite personalities,one very macho like,ego driven,not kind and caring of others,the Other was kind,caring. I look out across the Lake,see to individuals far out beyond the safety buoy's,I grab my binoculars,,spot "Them",the macho one is in "distress",the Kind one is headed to help,,,a bad,bad situation in open water,for a untrained individual to try to help a person in distress, Now I have two potential drowning victims,I am the only life guard on duty,I yell everybody "out" of water now! with mega-phone,grab my "recue can" and dive in, and head out for the two,all the while,in my mind,I am thinking- "today there is going to be a drown victim,it's to far,and the Kind one maybe the "Victim". sure enough by the time close to them,the macho one was tightly gripping the Kind one,as they both submerged,the water was luckly clear,and I could see underwater the macho one release his grip,push off the kind one,sending him to the depth's-I head for the Kind one,reach him,pull him to surface,as I watch the macho one drown." next time you think about being in-kind, maybe remember this story,,you see I had to "select that day,whom lives,whom dies!
I think the above site is interesting look at whats going on culturally in regards to male Feminization,and a harm-ful one!
There is a crisis in modern masculinity, with men struggling to deal with pressures in their personal and professional lives, according to a report by the mental health charity CALM (the Campaign Against Living Miserably).
The report, published to coincide with International Men's Day (November 19), seeks to address the reasons why male suicide rates in Britain are at a 15-year high (around 4,500 last year). Suicide is now the single biggest cause of death in men aged 20-49 in England and Wales, with males accounting for 78 per cent of all suicides in the UK. Female suicide rates, in comparison, are declining.
The CALM report, A Crisis in Modern Masculinity: Understanding the Causes of Male Suicide, analysed the pressures and expectations that men and women face in their daily lives, and concluded that men are failing to cope, as well as keeping their problems hidden from others.
Roughly half of all the 1,000 men and women surveyed said they had experienced some form of depression, yet women were much more likely to seek help or confide in a friend. 74pc of women who had suffered depression said they had spoken to someone about it, while only 53pc of males had done so. 69pc of men who had suffered depression said they preferred to deal with the problem themselves.
Personally if in a close relationship with a male or female,sexual or non-sexually,I need to be able to tell them I am a "Fem-male",and clearly define my belief,and a big part of that is "the only males I select to have sex with are -Str8/Cis-gender,heterosexually men-,and my role is 100% percent female like" " I am a sexual alternative to a real female,I have told some people!