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What Women Want: Female Psychology 101

What Women Want in Bed: How to Fuck a Woman or Fem-male Properly

I thought this was good article at attractioninstitute.com


"Yes, there are women out there who want to “make love” every time – sweet, gentle, rocking love with lots of eye contact and loving kisses.

Those women are not the majority.

The majority like to be pounded. The majority like to have their hair pulled. The majority like a good, solid jackhammering.

When a woman is bucking wildly against you, it’s not because she wants you to pull back and slowly swirl your cock around her vagina like you’re mixing a cake batter up there.

It’s because she wants you to hold down her arms, or grab her hips, or push her legs above her head, and fuck her harder.

Don’t be too afraid of what this means as far as gender equality goes – I am a raging feminist bitch, but I still want to be penetrated like you are planning on fucking my throat from the inside out."

I agree with most of this-me

Confusing? Yes, I know. Us women are confusing. This will make us make more sense: What women want: Female Psychology 101

“Every single baby starts out the same gender in the womb. There’s no difference between male and female babies, we’re all female. I did, you did, Sylvester Stallone did, and we all did. We all start out in the world as a little girl and it’s not till eight weeks that things start to change. The hormone that drives a baby’s development in the womb up to the week eight mark is estrogen. This is the key female hormone and is a growth promoting hormone. In a baby’s brain, it promotes the development of huge amounts of connections between the two hemispheres of the brain and channels development to the communication and emotional memory areas of the brain. In a female baby, this development continues all the way through their gestation period and continues to drive their development all the way through their life

I pure "Form" I always wish to be in the "Female" role yet,also I am oriented as "Pan-sexual",yet very selective in "Form of person "

"someone who identifies as pansexual, no matter what their gender or sex is, can potentially be attracted to cis men, intersex men, trans men, agender people, genderqueer people or any other non-binary person, trans women, intersex women, cis women, or any other combination of sex, gender, and gender performance"excerpt from: "The Case Of Pansexuality 101 And The Sea Of Biphobia And Gender Erasure"

Example of " Form of person"

  A young black guy and I got to talking while shopping at a hardware store,I did find him cute,he later told me,he also did find me cute as well.Any way our personalities mixed well,as we talked,(discussing some wood staining products),I felt very Fem,with him,even though he was 22,and I was 38,he was thin,handsome,confident,masculine,yet not macho,To make a long story short,he ended up helping me out to my truck,(my" pinky"),He commented upon seeing my truck,"no offense,yet the color suits you",I commented back "Yep,I am not a real macho kinda guy",,he replied " yeah,you just seem pretty honest,and kind type",,(I was at this point horny,and I kept imagining what his cock looked like).I replied fem-like,,"thanks,I think your pretty kind to,and good looking and open-minded",he replied "thanks,then asked me if I had a business card"..everything loaded in truck,I told him as I gave him a business card,"if you need anything at all,call me"...Sure enough,by the end of the day,as I was cleaning up on the job site I was working,the phone rang,and it was him,he asked if I had the time,he had a job at his mom's house he'd like me to look at.I was excited,so I told him, I could stop on the way home,By the time I left his mom's house ,I had performed "Fellatio" on him.We had formed what I call a "Intuitive essence of Form"
      This young male, routinely after this would see me "simply" for talking,and to let me perform "fellatio" on him
.He made it clear he seen our relationship as "Down-low ",which I was very happy to partake in,I clear described to him,I seen myself as a Fem-male,that I only wanted to be treated like, he would treat any other female,I told him if he had any friends that where kind,non-vulgar,clean,in good shape etc.that would like to see me on the "Down-low "and Only "Tops/non-gay", have them call me. He said he would..and soon he and a friend would "double team" me.Soon they both where "Mounting" me and climaxing in my bottom.
I think in my mind,I was getting the sex I desired (black straight men/myself in role as fem-male) and hoping they might stay straight and safe by simply at least just being a" Top",believe me,I wanted them only as Top men.

One thing that I learned in my experinces is." Once I took the Role of Fem-male"..and commit to see a man,he is expecting to "Climax"..from my experience "being adaptable" to each and every situation is very important,being Honest,and up front is so important for not only safe sex,but also so it is a Good experience for everyone.For example, a friend I would see routinely,most often I would perform "fellatio" on him,however one certain time I had a bad "cold sore",When he called telling me " I need a blow-job",I told him I had this cold sore,and hadn't had time to get my bottom clean,yet I be glad to jack him off,he said that would work,and thus came over.

 Down-low (sexual slang)

Down-low is an African American slang term[1] that typically refers to a subculture of black men who usually identify as heterosexual, but who have sex with men; some avoid sharing this information even if they have female sexual partner(s) married or single.[2][3][4][5] The term is also used to refer to a related sexual identity.[5][6] Down-low has been viewed as "a type of impression management that some of the informants use to present themselves in a manner that is consistent with perceived norms about masculine attribute, attitudes, and behavior".[7]

                       "being on the Down Low" is more than just men having sex with men in secret, or a variant of closeted homosexuality or bisexuality — it is a sexual identity that is, at least partly, defined by its "cult of masculinity" and its rejection of what is perceived as white culture (including white LGBT culture) and terms.[3][10][11][12] A 2003 New York Times Magazine cover story on the Down Low phenomenon explains that the black community sees "homosexuality as a white man's perversion."[10] It then goes on to describe the Down Low culture as follows:

Rejecting a gay culture they perceive as white and effeminate, many black men have settled on a new identity, with its own vocabulary and customs and its own name: Down Low. There have always been men – black and white – who have had secret sexual lives with men. But the creation of an organized, underground subculture largely made up of black men who otherwise live straight lives is a phenomenon of the last decade... Most date or marry women and engage sexually with men they meet only in anonymous settings like bathhouses and parks or through the Internet. Many of these men are young and from the inner city, where they live in a hypermasculine thug culture. Other DL men form romantic relationships with men and may even be peripheral participants in mainstream gay culture, all unknown to their colleagues and families. Most DL men identify themselves not as gay or bisexual but first and foremost as black. To them, as to many blacks, that equates to being inherently masculine.[10]

Context and American sub-cultures

In his book Beyond the Down Low: Sex, Lies and Denial in Black America, Keith Boykin states that secret homosexual relations are not unique to African American men, and in fact occur in many societies and among all races.[13]

In "Power Plays, Power Works" John Fiske suggests that closeted homosexuality may be more common in American communities suffering from widespread poverty, in which members reportedly depend heavily on traditional family networks (and often religious institutions) for financial and emotional support.[14]

The term quickly became conflated with an eroticism of black and Latino homosexual activity. Throughout the gay porn industry and internet networks, "down-low" quickly became a marketing term used to publicize pornographic movies, models, sex-clubs and social gatherings that included black and Latino men.[13]

Men who have sex with men -Wikipedia  

In some countries, homosexual relationships may be illegal or taboo, making MSM difficult to reach.[6][7]

As applied to transgender individuals

The term's precise use and definition has varied with regard to trans women, people born either biologically male or with ambiguous genitalia who self-identify as female.[8] Some sources consider trans women who have sex with men to be MSM,[9] others consider women who are trans "alongside" MSM,[1] and others are internally inconsistent (defining transgender women to be MSM in one place but referring to "MSM and transgender" in another).[10]


Determining the number of men who have ever had sex with another man is difficult. Worldwide, at least 3% of men, and perhaps as high as 16% of men, have had sex at least once with a man.[11] These figures include victims of sexual abuse in addition to men who regularly or voluntarily have sex with men.[citation needed]

In the U.S., among men aged 15 to 44, an estimated 6% have engaged in oral or anal sex with another man at some point in their lives, and about 2.9% have had at least one male sexual partner in the previous 12 months.[12]

Sexual practices

Historically, anal sex has been popularly associated with male homosexuality and MSM. However, many MSM do not engage in anal sex, and may engage in oral sex, frotting or mutual masturbation instead.[13][14][15] Among men who have anal sex with other men, the insertive partner may be referred to as the top, the one being penetrated may be referred to as the bottom, and those who enjoy either role may be referred to as versatile.[16]

GAMP men

 excerpt from: "Gynandromorphophilia/GAMP: Loving Transwomen"

"Two Types of Transwomen

gamp trans
Sam. Apparently. HSTS. Definitely

Transwomen (ie, those born male) fall into two completely distinct and unrelated aetiologies. These were described by Blanchard and confirmed by these studies.

In street and conventional parlance, these women are identified, and self -identify, by a range of names. At one end, they refer to themselves as ‘transwomen’ and at the other, at street level, as ‘shemales’, ‘trannies’, ‘transies’, ‘ladyboys’ (in Asia) as well as a whole host of non-English names that mean more-or-less the same. (It is very rare to hear an HSTS transwoman refer to herself as ‘a real woman.’ Such a claim might indicate that you are talking to an AGP.)

There are strong similarities between the two types of GAMP, the most noticeable being that they all like pre-operative transwomen. There may be a small number of men specifically attracted to post-operative transwomen (i.e. with a vagina) but actually most men in relationships with such transwomen are heterosexual. These men effectively get involved with their partners by accident. They didn’t go out seeking a transwoman to have a relationship with; they just met someone they liked who happened to be transsexual.

(Please note that there are some men who are specifically attracted to intersex, rather than transwomen. Intersex people are born with a range of conditions that mean that their genitalia and reproductive organs do not conform to the standard binary models. We are not discussing these men or women here. We are talking specifically about transwomen, and the men attracted to them. While the current research indicates that HSTS transwomen {the ones attracted to men from childhood} do have an intersex phenomenon that affects brain structure, this does not affect genitalia, which are in the normal range for males.)

Most the men , have been with could be seen as Gamp men.-."They wanted me as fem-like as possible",they had no interest in myself other then to have me play the role of "female"..and simply referred to me as a shemale or Fem-male,which I accept myself as "She-male",,though prefer "Fem-male"


These men may be attracted to a range of presentations from feminine girly boys, through transwomen to natal women. They are almost always also attracted to natal women. They will often have been married. Specifically, they do not self-identify as homosexual and they are often sexually repulsed by masculinity. They may have wondered if they are gay, given the nature of their attraction, but they’re not.

excerpt from "Who are gynandromorphophilic"

                Background. Gynandromorphophilia (GAMP) is sexual interest in gynandromorphs (GAMs; colloquially, shemales). GAMs possess a combination of male and female physical characteristics. Thus, GAMP presents a challenge to conventional understandings of sexual orientation as sexual attraction to the male v. female form. Speculation about GAMP men has included the ideas that they are homosexual, heterosexual, or especially, bisexual.

Blanchard's transsexualism typology- wikipedia

Blanchard's transsexualism typology, also Blanchard autogynephilia theory and Blanchard's taxonomy, is a psychological typology of male-to-female (MtF) transsexualism created by Ray Blanchard through the 1980s and 1990s, building on the work of his colleague, Kurt Freund. Blanchard divided trans women into two different groups: "homosexual transsexuals", who Blanchard says seek sex reassignment surgery to romantically and sexually attract (ideally heterosexual) men, and "autogynephilic transsexuals" who purportedly are sexually aroused at the idea of having a female body. The typology suggests distinctions between MtF transsexuals, but does not speculate on the causes of transsexualism. This distinction is a recurring theme in scholarly literature on transsexualism.[1]

Supporters of the theory include sexual behavior scientists J. Michael Bailey, James Cantor, Alice Dreger, and some openly transgender health care providers, Anne Lawrence and Maxine Peterson, and others who say that there are significant differences between the two proposed groups, including sexuality, age of transition, ethnicity, IQ, fetishism, and quality of adjustment. Under the theory, homosexual transsexuals are predicted to begin transitioning earlier in life,[2] generally before turning 30, which accounts for their supposedly better adjustment. They are also more likely to come from poorer, non-white or immigrant backgrounds,[3] have lower IQs,[4] as well as be by definition exclusively attracted to men. Autogynephilic transsexuals are either attracted to women, exclusively or not, or asexual.[2] They are also said under the theory to display more fetishistic or otherwise paraphilic arousal.[5]

Criticism of the research and theory has come from trans activists, including developmental biology researcher Julia Serano, Jaimie Veale, Larry Nuttbrock, and some physicians, including Charles Allen Moser and John Bancroft, and others who say that the theory is poorly representative of trans women.[6]

In the transgender community, the theory has been the subject of controversy, which peaked with the publication of Bailey's The Man Who Would Be Queen in 2003


Blanchard classified four subtypes of autogynephilic sexual fantasies, but noted that "All four types of autogynephilia tend to occur in combination with other types rather than alone."[20][28]

  • Transvestic autogynephilia: arousal to the act or fantasy of wearing typically feminine clothing
  • Behavioral autogynephilia: arousal to the act or fantasy of doing something regarded as feminine
  • Physiologic autogynephilia: arousal to fantasies of body functions specific to people regarded as female
  • Anatomic autogynephilia: arousal to the fantasy of having a normative woman's body, or parts of one
 So for myself -all four occur..sexually Role as Female,at least to the fully extent I can,when I am attracted to a male,I desire to act as feminine as possible,in order to please him,which means offering my "bottom" for penetration-(being very clean)- for self (ultimately for myself to be pleased,I seek to be penetrated,and he climaxes inside me)
 All the other 3 types are mentally for self identity.

I simply perform "fellatio" or just masturbate him,it is mainly to please him (kinda like giving a friend a massage)

Stoic sexual morality

In early Stoicism among the Greeks, sex was regarded as a good, if enjoyed between people who maintained the principles of respect and friendship; in the ideal society, sex should be enjoyed freely, without bonds of marriage that treated the partner as property. Some Greek Stoics privileged same-sex relations between a man and a younger male partner[116][117] (see "Pederasty in ancient Greece"). However, stoics in the Roman Imperial era departed from the view of human beings as "communally sexual animals"[118] and emphasized sex within marriage,[116] which as an institution helped sustain social order.[119] Although they distrusted strong passions, including sexual desire,[120] sexual vitality was necessary for procreation.

Roman-era Stoics such as Seneca and Musonius Rufus, both active about 100 years after Lucretius, emphasized "sex unity" over the polarity of the sexes.[121] Although Musonius is predominately a Stoic, his philosophy also partakes of Platonism and Pythagoreanism.[122] He rejected the Aristotelian tradition, which portrayed sexual dimorphism as expressing a proper relation of those ruling (male) and those being ruled (female), and distinguished men from women as biologically lacking. Dimorphism exists, according to Musonius, simply to create difference, and difference in turn creates the desire for a complementary relationship, that is, a couple who will bond for life for the sake of each other and for their children.[18] The Roman ideal of marriage was a partnership of companions who work together to produce and rear children, manage everyday affairs, lead exemplary lives, and enjoy affection; Musonius drew on this ideal to promote the Stoic view that the capacity for virtue and self-mastery was not gender-specific.[123]

Marcus Aurelius wrote that sex "is the friction of a piece of gut and, following a sort of convulsion, the expulsion of some mucus"

Both Musonius and Seneca criticized the double standard, cultural and legal, that granted Roman men greater sexual freedom than women.[18][124] Men, Musonius argues, are excused by society for resorting to prostitutes and slaves to satisfy their sexual appetites, while such behavior from a woman would not be tolerated; therefore, if men presume to exercise authority over women because they believe themselves to have greater self-control, they ought to be able to manage their sex drive. The argument, then, is not that sexual freedom is a human good, but that men as well as women should exercise sexual restraint.[18][125] A man visiting a prostitute does harm to himself by lacking self-discipline; disrespect for his wife and her expectations of fidelity would not be at issue.[126] Similarly, a man should not be so self-indulgent as to exploit a female slave sexually; however, her right not to be used is not a motive for his restraint.[127] Musonius maintained that even within marriage, sex should be undertaken as an expression of affection and for procreation, and not for "bare pleasure".[128]

Musonius disapproved of same-sex relations because they lacked a procreative purpose.[18][129] Seneca and Epictetus also thought that procreation privileged male–female sexual pairing within marriage,[130] and Seneca strongly opposed adultery, finding it particularly offensive by women.[131]

Although Seneca is known primarily as a Stoic philosopher, he draws on Neopythagoreanism for his views on sexual austerity.[132] Neopythagoreans characterized sexuality outside marriage as disordered and undesirable; celibacy was not an ideal, but chastity within marriage was.[133] To Seneca, sexual desire for pleasure (libido) is a "destructive force (exitium) insidiously fixed in the innards"; unregulated, it becomes cupiditas, lust. The only justification for sex is reproduction within marriage.[134] Although other Stoics see potential in beauty to be an ethical stimulus, a way to attract and develop affection and friendship within sexual relations, Seneca distrusts the love of physical beauty as destroying reason to the point of insanity.[135] A man should have no sexual partner other than his wife,[132] and the wise man (sapiens, Greek sophos) will make love to his wife by exercising good judgment (iudicium), not emotion (affectus).[136] This is a far stricter view than that of other Stoics who advocate sex as a means of promoting mutual affection within marriage.[136]

Venus rising from the sea, a wall painting from Pompeii

The philosophical view of the body as a corpse that carries around the soul[137] could result in outright contempt for sexuality: the emperor and Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius writes, "as for sexual intercourse, it is the friction of a piece of gut and, following a sort of convulsion, the expulsion of some mucus".[138] Seneca rails "at great length" against the perversity of one Hostius Quadra, who surrounded himself with the equivalent of funhouse mirrors so he could view sex parties from distorted angles and penises would look bigger.[139]

Sexual severity opened the Roman Stoics to charges of hypocrisy: Juvenal satirizes those who affect a rough and manly Stoic façade but privately indulge.[140] It was routinely joked that not only were Stoics inclined toward pederasty, they liked young men who were acquiring beards, contrary to Roman sexual custom.[116] Martial repeatedly makes insinuations about those who were outwardly Stoic but privately enjoyed the passive homosexual role.[141]

Stoic sexual ethics are grounded in their physics and cosmology.[142] The 5th-century writer Macrobius preserves a Stoic interpretation of the myth of the birth of Venus as a result of the primal castration of the deity Heaven (Latin Caelus).[n 3] The myth, Macrobius indicates, could be understood as an allegory of the doctrine of seminal reason. The elements derive from the semina, "seeds," that are generated by heaven; "love" brings together the elements in the act of creation, like the sexual union of male and female.[143] Cicero suggests that in Stoic allegory the severing of reproductive organs signifies, "...that the highest heavenly aether, that seed-fire which generates all things, did not require the equivalent of human genitals to proceed in its generative work".[144]

Male nudity

Roman Neo-Attic stele depicting a warrior in a muscle cuirass, idealizing the male form without nudity (1st century BC)

The poet Ennius (ca. 239–169 BC) declared that "exposing naked bodies among citizens is the beginning of public disgrace (flagitium)," a sentiment echoed by Cicero that again links the self-containment of the body with citizenship.[159][160][161][162] Roman attitudes toward nudity differed from those of the Greeks, whose ideal of masculine excellence was expressed by the nude male body in art and in such real-life venues as athletic contests. The toga, by contrast, distinguished the body of the sexually privileged adult Roman male.[163] Even when stripping down for exercises, Roman men kept their genitals and buttocks covered, an Italic custom shared also with the Etruscans, whose art mostly shows them wearing a loincloth, a skirt-like garment, or the earliest form of "shorts" for athletics. Romans who competed in the Olympic Games presumably followed the Greek custom of nudity, but athletic nudity at Rome has been dated variously, possibly as early as the introduction of Greek-style games in the 2nd century BC but perhaps not regularly till the time of Nero around 60 AD.[164]

Male–male sex

Roman men were free to have sex with males of lower status without a perceived loss of masculinity. Those who took the receiving role in sex acts, sometimes referred to as the "passive" or "submissive" role, were disparaged as weak and effeminate. Mastery of one's own body was an aspect of the citizen's libertas, political liberty.[248] The use of one's body to give pleasure to others was servile. Laws such as the poorly understood Lex Scantinia and various pieces of Augustan moral legislation were meant to restrict same-sex activity among freeborn males, viewed as threatening a man's status and independence as a citizen.

Apart from measures to protect the liberty of citizens, the prosecution of homosexuality as a general crime began in the 3rd century when male prostitution was banned by Philip the Arab. By the end of the 4th century, passive homosexuality under the Christian Empire was punishable by burning.[258] "Death by sword" was the punishment for a "man coupling like a woman" under the Theodosian Code.[259] Under Justinian, all same-sex acts, passive or active, no matter who the partners, were declared contrary to nature and punishable by death.[260] Homosexual behaviors were pointed to as causes for God's wrath following a series of disasters around 542 and 559

-what a culture construct!

The bed and conection to sex:

How much of a culture construct is this?

 Role expectations of a sexual partner

Personally I am submissive type,(not in terms of BDSM stuff),just terms of like being guided,or like a confident type partner,who can take the lead,yet respectfully understands I am Fem-male.example might be a female(I enjoy being pegged by ladies or performing Cunnilingus on a lady) as I can be in the Fem-role.

Forced feminization may also include the male receiving anal sex from a female using a strap-on dildo (sometimes called pegging), or penetration from a male, or group of males. Butt plugs and other anal-penetrative toys may also be used. Anal sex is used because it may be perceived to be feminine due to its traditional use on women in heterosexual relationships, or due to the passive and submissive nature of being penetrated, whereas the typical male role may be judged to be more active/dominant. Alternatively, the feminized male may be "forced" to perform oral sex on a male

-I have experience in role as described here,yet I really was forced..was more from being a "Cuckold " in several relationships,though I felt more like her and I where just two ladies,with a guy.I think that for myself,I realized I was truly a "Fem-male" through "Cuckolding".

 The cuckold is usually submissive, often humiliated, “forced” to watch, and sometimes sexually services his wife and her lover. He may wear panties, shackles, or a chastity device, perhaps performing oral sex on his wife before or after the bull ejaculates inside her, eating her “cream pie.” ..While most cuckold erotica emphasizes humiliation, real-life cuckolding couples are not necessarily shame-oriented. The cuckold/husband sometimes acts more like a pimp than a wimp. In most cuckold erotica, the husband masturbates instead of having intercourse with his wife. - I can relate to this in part.