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Porn Is Not the Problem—You Are ---nsfw---

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This page is based on a Article at psychologytoday.com by David J. Ley Ph.D. called "Porn Is Not the Problem—You Are"

excerpt from "Porn Is Not the Problem—You Are" ; It is getting increasingly difficult to find men in our society, who’ve never viewed pornography. But, if porn were the problem – if porn were addictive, then the problems of porn would be far, far greater than they are. In fact, in recent studies, fewer than 1% of people report that they have had problems in their life due to difficulties controlling their sexual behaviors, including watching porn. Now - higher numbers, around 10%, report "feeling" that their sexual desires are hard to control, but it is very different to feel something, versus ACTUALLY being out of control.

So – if you are one of that 1%, then what’s going on? If it isn’t the porn, then it must be you. Something about you (more than one thing, usually) has led you to be a person who makes bad decisions about sex. Now in that, you’re not alone – it is in fact a universal truth that people tend to make poorer decisions when they’re turned on, whether it’s choosing not to wear a condom, or choosing to masturbate to porn when you shouldn’t. Call it “sex-goggles,” and recognize that human sexual arousal affects our decision-making.

But, the responsibility is on you to identify why and how you make bad decisions, and take steps to make better decisions in the future. When you blame the problems on porn, you’re telling yourself “porn is more powerful than I am.” And I’m here to tell you, that’s not true – you CAN take responsibility for your life, your sex, for your good decisions and your bad ones, and have the life you want. Porn's not the problem - you are. But you know what? You're also the solution.

Internet Pornography by the Numbers; Learn about the statistics for online pornography and additional resources for its threat to society- webroot.com

   As for myself,it is clear,,,my web search ,,that I typed to get this site was "what does popularity of porn in american society tell us"?

 excerpt from webroot site;

                                                        

How Online Pornography Affects Americans

  • About 200,000 Americans are classified as “porn addicts.”
  • 40 million American people regularly visit porn sites.
  • 35% of all internet downloads are related to pornography.
  • 34% of internet users have experienced unwanted exposure to pornographic content through ads, pop up ads, misdirected links or emails.
  • One-third of porn viewers are women.

           -personally I visit a porn site on occasion (maybe few times a week),mainly to masturbate,thus sexual a release-
                                                   yet not a addicted to it..and mainly Fem-male/she-male topic type erotica
I simply choose this type visual stimulation,as I relate to the one in the "female role"

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I was waiting for a terrible thunder storm to pass the other day,I waited petting my dog George,trying to comfort him,as he is terrified by the thunder,he doesn't understand it,it is a "unknown" to him. Yet as a human being,I very much know what it is;   a aspect of Nature,I accept and respect verse cusing it,condemning it......this is Reality,we can see it for what it is, or hide,and condemn it,,and never learn!.....Human Nature,involves sex,and to a high degree, we must accept it,,or else it with distort itself,causing distorted people.crime etc.

-my thoughts 8/22/2018
friend stopped in for lunch and "boned "me,my role

One can call it Porn, Yet I call it "Human Nature", a Reality, and two people enjoying the moment,he in his Role,(masculine),myself in my Role (Feminine).      Porn is a word,,and a idea created by whom?,,,sure maybe being in my "role" isn't appealing to yourself,or maybe the role you play, yet role do you play what is it ?,maybe a idea conjured up by a societal norm,yet what is that truly?- just a thought of mine-8/22/2018

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Unfaithfully Yours: Adultery in America-people.com

- the polls say at least 50%,,it this the truth?,who knows,yet I see this as a just as important topic issue then 

I personally never have commited adultery,yet have been with men,whom by being with me, have,however I will not ever allow that now,,just a moral code I evolved into, as I can't condemn those that have or do,again it is human nature at our current "Reality".

  On the the same token ,I don't wished to be condemned for being Androgyny and wishing/desiring to be in the "feminine role"