Simply Third-Gender or both female/male /Androgyny-(nsfw,sexual content)


                         Comparing- I do believe if society is to cleary see "same sex relationships" and their sexual aspect(which is the negative of it imposed by society). One must understand the roles of the peoples involved;

            First one should never assume both (has in myself and a man) involved are so called "Gay", one must see it is very much to
            For example my "Oldest friend" since kindergarden , was one society might claim as "Gay", he desired, was by his instinct 
              drawn to men for a sexual relationship- yet as a male in the female and male roles /both, he showed no desire to appear 
              female/dress as female- "I will call this "Mainstream Gay"
            For myself ; I am drawn to men sexually,yet only in the female role-100% by instinct/desire.I have a great desire to dress as                 female,appear female like.yet no desire to have sex-change, except for breast implants,yet relieve this thru wearing bras                     with false breasts
             My satisfaction sexually is derived many from psychological pleasure, not physical pleasure, I can't say, yet my Theory is 
               Females derive their sexual pleasure, more by way of psychological means,less by physical,- verse- opposite in straight 
               males. whom I believe more physical pleasure
            For myself, it is very Important a male "treat me like I am a Lady" 
                                                            This aspect is vital for myself, and the aspect that defines my self different then "Mainstream                    Gay"

                     Not that I look down,etc at Mainstream gay, yet simply comparing, I still see my self as in the light of Homosexually in 
                     terms of attracted to the same sex.Simply as a traditional female looks at a straight male. or divided ,thus , I compare 
                     myself to peoples like Lady-boys,she-males

only in female role

So one can also Compare me to a person say like "Bruce Jenner " yet no interest or need to transform my body to female sexually,yet we are not the same "role"

I one wishs to see a aspect of my Role, which maybe very un-traditional- see "Indigo Club"

What is happening to ;(the third-gender person)here was very much my role from 2000 thru 2005-getting gang banged
this day for example two friends came over and took turns boning me

I loved being gang-banged then, if again had a group of select males to treat me like a lady, would now, I am fairly sure.

     Now compare me to this person is a "slave to wage" as porn-star verse myself who wasn't,I wasn't getting paid

             The above person has limited selection as to whom is "boning them"

             Where I had full ability as to whom would "bone me"

      also "one berdache type" might have little desire for sex verse myself a lot.

         Albert Einsteins essay regarding Spirituality,Patterns of Culture.

        Also until recently find out Leonardo DaVinci was of " Third-Gender type, likely similar to myself -choosing the more "Feminine"


The one thing, probably the essence of his genius, was his superhuman sense of connecting 2 opposites and creating a whole. 

“To develop a complete mind: Study the art of science; study the science of art. Learn how to see. Realize that everything connects to everything else” – Leonardo DaVinci

my symbol of- "The Androgyny"- me

or non-duality

The brilliance of this quote is also separated in 2 parts. The first part, “To develop a complete mind: Study the art of science; study the science of art.” speaks of taking 2 opposites and entangling them together in order to create a complete vision of the whole.

When we step back and try to see the “bigger picture” we realize that everything is a game of opposites. We live in the world of duality.

However, the essence of each opposite lies at its opposite’s core. In other words, look at the Ying Yang symbol and see that the essence of light lies at its opposite’s core – that little white dot in the midst of darkness – and vice versa  . 

Only by using light to understand darkness and using darkness to understand light, we can get to know the essence of both opposites, the reason of their existence.

Only by knowing the wholeness of both sides we can realize that they are actually one “coin”. Only by knowing the wholeness of a thing, we can go beyond and use it with its true potential.

We live in a world of duality but our purpose is to find opposites, connect them and create oneness. Our passion should be using the illusion of separateness to create new wholes.

We must “Learn how to see.”, as the second part of this quote says, “Realize that everything connects to everything else”.

Life is the art of The Universe. The entanglement of energies anchored by Matter, limited by time-space, interacting between certain forces and creating their own, unique colors with the illusion of separateness is like an image painting itself.

We are all connected to everything else and everything else is connected to us. Our past, present and future are all merged into one dot we call now.

We are limited by forces and we experience separateness so we can understand The Whole from every angle and go beyond together, as unity.

The forces and laws we play with are in perfect harmony with each other. Their only rule is balance and Nature never tolerates misbalance.

          “Nature never breaks her own laws” – Leonardo DaVinci

I personally see Society today highly "Fragmented, and causes mainly by false beliefs or mis-understanding, and highly recommend we, all work to get back in "Balance with Nature", as my God/is Nature, and things are not looking so good. Yet answer is easy ; "Let go of "Pre-Concieved Notions"


Everything Connects


I personally recognize with the third gender of ‘Fa’afafine’ ,whom always existed within Samoan society, and when translated literally means ‘in the manner of’ (fa’a) ‘woman’ (fafine). Fa’afafines have a very specific role in Samoan society, an interesting contrast to transgenderism in Western society, which is yet to be widely accepted.

The recognition of this third gender is not a recent occurrence: Pre-Christian Samoans accepted and acknowledged that every individual, man or woman, had a separate role in society. Hence, it is still acceptable today for a male child to be feminine, for example. Boys who display marked effeminate behavior in childhood are recognized to be Fa’afafines and are fully accepted within their families and society.

It is difficult to classify the concept of the Samoan third gender in the terms of Western culture. These societies often misuse or do not fully understand categories such as ‘transgender’, ‘homosexual’ and ‘transvestite’, all of which were created to classify males and females. The Samoans reject many of these terms; Fa’afafines identify themselves as a separate gender. The Fa’afafines cannot simply be termed homosexual, since in addition to having a completely separate gender identity, they have a varied sex life which may be with another man, woman or Fa’afafine. Within Samoan society, tolerance of all individuals and their likes, dislikes and choices is of high importance, and from a young age children are not pushed to conform to particular gender roles in the same way Western children generally are. I do believe,as a evolving society(becoming mature),we must realize we can't give individuals a assumed gender role based on appearance(body).That is primitive use of our brains.and is revealing a very un-mature self,by labeling people by physical body,we must know people by their inter-self. I think American must realize we are of Many Cultures to be American,,many,many and the Third-gender is one of them.

Scholars who have studied the Samoan culture describe the fa’afafine as hard working and dedicated members of the family. In their study, Nancy H. Bartlett and Paul L. Vasey mentioned that these individuals display an array of behaviours that range from extravagantly feminine to mundane masculine. Their sexual orientation resembles typical homosexuals as evident from their exclusive sexual relationships with men.

For me the video above,which portrays the Fa'afafine,inspires me a lot,comforts me a lot,makes me not feel so alone,as I identify my sexual/gender idenitity very much as similar to their's .

Gender X?is this the future?

M, F, or X? Third gender now- official-AUSTRALIA is getting new rules on gender, so some people may be classified as indeterminate, unspecified or intersex.?

New York City proposal would allow adults to choose gender 'X' on birth certificates?

Germany has become the first European country to allow parents of babies born with no clearly-defined gender characteristics to leave the ‘male/female’ field on birth certificates blank, creating a ‘third sex’ category in the public register. ?

For myself ,if asked what my gender is? I would reply biologically 100% male-psychologically 100% female- and I would rather be 100% female biologically if could it could occur naturally ."by miracle"

The Majority of Humans are assumed to be "Cisgender "individuals are traditionally seen as having more privilege in today’s society because their gender identity matches the one that society expects of them. These individuals are typically seen as “normal”. This belief that cisgender is the “normal” or “correct” form of gender identification has led to cissexism or transphobia. Cissexism and transphobia can be used almost interchangeably and generally mean adhering to the belief that cisgender is normal and that transgender is deviant or abnormal. There are many examples of cissexism and transphobia in today’s society, but they typically all fall under the general idea of promoting the gender binary: the idea that there are two distinct genders defined solely by anatomy. This ideology can be very harmful to transgender individuals because it may make them feel as though they are deviant or that something is wrong with them; however, this is not the case whatsoever. Identifying as transgender is perfectly natural and healthy.

I can see Cisgender normal and nessary for reproduction/ thus males and females naturally attracted-yet does that mean only for the purpose of "Reproduction"?

Yet even as a youth, I desired the "body" of a female,dress as a female,be like my "Mom" in some form,sexually at the age of around 6, my mother and father where divorced,a new step-father moved in to our home,this was very traumatic time I recall,on top of that,my bedroom was attached by a door to my mom's,now my mom's and his,it was not uncommon for me to be awaking in the night,by the noise of them having sex,I remember only one time,looking to see what was happening,only to see my mom performing fellatio on him,then being mounted by him,after that,I never wanted to view again.

Anyway for some reason performing "fellatio" and being "Mounted" is what I wanted to be.Maybe distorted,maybe not normal,yet I like to be "Mounted",desire it,seems "Natural" to me.

Believe me I tried to just be Cisgender, but it doesn't fit me.not when I desire the female role.

It has taken nearly a life-time to be able to feel good about myself,the one thing I came to fairly well embody,is "No Blames",it does no good,I daily have to remind myself in every aspect of life.

Looking out at American Society today, one can see how boys still are very much held to a "male",a "ego" role.

I don't have the answers yet,I came across this: "Raising Your Children Gender Neutrally ",and believe it worth considering.

excerpt from above- "In recent times, it has become much more common and socially acceptable for parents to raise their children in gender neutral ways. As queer rights, feminist movements, and gender equality take on a greater social relevance, many caregivers no longer expect their children to behave stereotypically “masculine” or “feminine;” children may even be praised for going beyond their gendered expectations (e.g., boys who can cook well or girls who are fit and athletic). Raising your kids without expecting them to conform to gender norms may allow them to develop a broad potential in many areas, rather than only allowing them to explore activities that are appropriate for their traditional gender roles. For example, if you are raising a girl, she may have the potential to become both a great mechanic and a talented dancer if you do not narrow her choices down to only those that are gender conforming."

I do believe there are very many dangers with "stereotypically" as well as a " Homogeneous" society.

Ardhanarishwara (Sanskrit: अर्धनारीश्वर, Ardhanārīśwara) is a composite androgynous form of the Hindu God Shiva and his consort Parvati (also known as Devi, Shakti and Uma in this icon). Ardhanarishvara is depicted as half male and half female, split down the middle. The right half is usually the male Shiva, illustrating his traditional attributes.

The earliest Ardhanarishvara images are dated to the Kushan period, starting from the first century CE. Its iconography evolved and was perfected in the Gupta era. The Puranas and various iconographic treatises write about the mythology and iconography of Ardhanarishvara. While Ardhanarishvara remains a popular iconographic form found in most Shiva temples throughout India, very few temples are dedicated to this deity.

Ardhanarishvara represents the synthesis of masculine and feminine energies of the universe (Purusha and Prakriti) and illustrates how Shakti, the female principle of God, is inseparable from (or the same as, according to some interpretations) Shiva, the male principle of God. The union of these principles is exalted as the root and womb of all creation. Another view is that Ardhanarishvara is a symbol of Shiva's all-pervasive nature.

Androgyny is the combination of masculine and feminine characteristics. Usually used to describe characters or persons who have no specific gender, gender ambiguity may also be found in fashion, gender identity, sexual identity, or sexual lifestyle.

In the case of gender identity, terms such as genderqueer, or gender neutral are more commonly used

Different Identities: Life and Love Among Brazil’s Third Gender

Discussions about gender and sexuality can be fraught and complicated, whether by disagreement, embarrassment or by personal values and ideology. And this conversation is further complicated when refracted through the prism of culture.

We sometimes fail to give proper weight to the importance of cultural difference in defining which identities we consider to be normal, acceptable or even possible to adopt.

That’s what makes Don Kulick’s work so fascinating. Don Kulick is a professor of Anthropology at Uppsala University in Sweden, and has spent years living with and writing about travesti… Brazil’s “third gender,” who are designated male at birth but, through lifestyle choices and bodily modifications, live a feminine gender identity.

Is having a feminine gender identity the same thing as identifying as a woman? Not exactly. According to Don Kulick, travesti “want to be feminine, not female.” Whereas transgender women in U.S. culture identify as women, travesti most often consider themselves and are considered to be a different identity with its own rules about how to live, work and socialize.

Consider traditional roles in romantic relationships. Travestis in the community in which Kulick lived and studied sought partners who identified as, and acted like, heterosexual men, forming what would seem like a traditional masculine and feminine pair.

However, Kulick notes that, almost without exception, travestis insist on providing financially for their partners. This may seem paradoxical to someone who expects traditional, binary gender roles– that is, that the masculine partner provide for the feminine partner. From that point of view, it may also be ironic that most travesti people themselves have these traditional expectations about many aspects of life.

Kulick explains that many travestis in Brazil abhor gay marriage and, given that they see themselves as not categorically female, find biological males who consider themselves female–a categorization that would apply to many trans women in U.S. culture–as mentally disturbed.

Many fully expect their heterosexual partners to ultimately be more attracted to women than to them, and explain this using a familiar phrase: “God made woman for man and man for woman.”

These values may well come from the often conservative values of the societies in which travestis are situated. While travesti is recognized in these places as a distinct identity, different from man and woman, travestis are still a gender/sexual minority (GSM) in these societies.

As a result, many travesti folk are relegated to poverty and sex work to survive. Thus, by providing financially for their heterosexual-identified male partners, they gain the benefit of power and control in a life and world that offers very little of it to them.

“We’re the victims of a lot of prejudices on the street,” one travesti tells Kulick. “We need to have a person who we can always be on top of. Who? Our boyfriends. How? Supporting them, giving them money, so that we can dominate them…”

The attitudes and identities we adopt are always shaped to some extent by the culture or cultures we are a part of. But the fact that “third gender” identities exist all over the world, throughout history and mythology–from the Zapotec Muxe or the Thai Kathoey, the Balkan Sworn virgins and so on–suggests something in human nature that resists the categorization that culture inevitably imposes.

My idea of the "Indigo Group" in my writing "Terrace",could be seen as a modern day "Molly House",where straight men(black),go to be sexual satisfied by persons like myself "Molly Michael"

Miss Molly[15] (referring to an effeminate or homosexual male).

I see myself as "effeminate"
A parodic cartoon depicting male and female crossdressing,c. 1780, after a work by John Collet.

Excerpt from:"Welcome to the Molly-House"

By the 1750s, the idea of the sodomite as a distinct kind of person was well established. The sodomite-molly in the public’s mind was always going to show some sign of effeminacy. It might have simply been in the way he walked, the way he talked, the way he dressed, with excessive elegance. The idea that one could be recognized by his mannerisms or style of dress is corroborated by reports of people trying to catch someone by running down the street calling, “Stop! A Sodomite! Stop! A Sodomite!” and of a crowd gathering to assist them. There were also some mollies who dressed as women. From what I can tell, in the 18th century most of these transvestite mollies were involved in prostitution. Trial accounts suggest that mollies who dressed as women were often very convincing, which, of course, created difficulties for their heterosexual customers.

Mollies could go to the molly-house to socialize with other mollies, but they could also leave the molly-house and troll the streets for straight boys or soldiers to have sex with, who they then could bring back to the molly-house.

This notion of types is very interesting because what happens, I would argue, is that in the early 18th century the world for the first time splits into a heterosexual majority and a homosexual minority. A world in which men like boys and women is a world that no longer exists after 1700 in Western Europe. One of the last English examples of acceptable bi-sexuality was Lord Rochester, who had female mistresses and a wife but also openly liked boys. In a famous poem he says to one of his female mistresses, “Nor shall our love-fits, Chloris, be forgot, / When each the well-looked link boy strove to enjoy, / And the best was the deciding lot / Whether the boy fucked you, or I the boy.” The world where an adult woman and an adult man share the sexual favors of an adolescent male is one that disappears circa 1700.

As you move into the 18th century, sodomitical desire is articulated in three different forms. You have, first of all, the group that likes other sodomites and whose sexual preference is for an attractive male around 20 or 30. You then have a second group made up of those who prefer adolescent males between 15 and 19. Then there is a third group of men who want heterosexual males.(my type) These three forms of homosexual or sodomitical desire in the 18th century were not yet sharply differentiated in the public mind, but I suspect that it is very likely that this differentiation did exist in the minds of individual sodomites.

So in 18th century London,I would of been known as a "Molly" whom seen straight men-"Molly Michael"
I kinda like that name!

Psychologically female / biologically male

I have a hard time understanding ,why society wants or needs to call some one like myself, transgender if not changing appearance? (I’d use the word transgender. I’d also use “non-operational female to male.” I’d also use the word “genderqueer.” I identified as a feminist before identifying as trans. It was really embedded in me. It played a big part in my decision not to have surgery. I’ve tried with my identity to not reinforce the gender binary system, and options have been limited to the trans community by focusing so much on transsexualism (involving gender reassignment surgery). The only option is, if you’re male, to become female, or vice-versa. Transgender youth have felt that binary gender system is not for them. We want to increase the number of genders. [Bilodeau, 2005]-Brent L. Bilodeau, Kristen A. Renn / msu.edu

                                       My Point about Transgender is Not all of Us want to be classified as Male or Female,or wish a complete gender reassignment surgery , least for myself I prefer "Fem-male" or partly male ,partly female

It really concerns me and should all of Society,,"That we can't understand that every Individual is Psychologically  different

of the same kind; alike.
"timbermen prefer to deal with homogeneous woods",

"culturally speaking the farmers constitute an extremely homogeneous group"

 - thus assuming I wish to be a Female,when I wish to be what I am -psychologically female- biologically male(which I don't 100%,and realize can't or truly can be)

        1. I very much now see this a " Social Construct" all it can be ,thus a simple belief system.

        2. I don't identify myself with cisgender men,so I can't be homosexual,..I don't identify myself with cisgender females and don't                 wish to be female.
        3.I like looking,acting like both sexes,depending on what I am doing.

        4. I have been with some men whom identify themselves as Homosexuals,yet I don't identify with them,as far as character

        5. I say pansexual might fit me with right person. / non-sexually I am pan-sexual

I would much rather have changed my Looks to appear like this person.back in the late 90's when the above two pic's of me where taken. If I where, 35 again,I might very well try to look similar to the person above.(I was prettier back then,lol)

grown my hair out,and maybe done HRT for breast growth,yet never have I consider surgery(penis removal)

I think I could of in reality ,liked to look Fem to this person's Fem charactor

A Article I found helpful:

Gender identity and sexual orientation are often confused. As previously discussed, gender identity describes the gender(s) people consider themselves to be (masculine, feminine, or transgendered). Sexual orientation refers to a person's pattern of attraction to other people including physical, emotional, sexual, and romantic attraction. These patterns of attraction are usually identified in the following manner: 1) heterosexual (straight) refers to a pattern of attraction to the opposite gender, 2) homosexual (lesbian or gay) refers to a pattern of attraction to the same gender, 3) bisexual refers to a pattern of attraction to both genders, and 4) "questioning" is a term used to describe people who are not yet certain which (if any) pattern of attraction best suits them. It should be noted that an attraction is an internal psycho-emotional experience and should not be confused with sexual behavior. Therefore, sexual orientation refers to a pattern of physical, emotional, sexual, and romantic attraction to others, which may or may not be acted upon. Like gender identity, sexual orientation is usually described along a continuum ranging from exclusively heterosexual, to exclusively homosexual, with bisexuality falling in between these two poles.- mentalhelp.net

IN this chapter I propose to deal not only with the male and female shamans and their relation to each other, but also with it curious phenomenon-the mystical change of sex among shamans, by which a male shaman is 'transformed' into a female, and vice versa.

Warfare, Homosexuality, and Gender Status Among American Indian Men in the Southwest

an abstract, here is a brief excerpt of the content:

Chapter 1 Warfare, Homosexuality, and Gender Status Among American Indian Men in the Southwest Ramón A. Gutiérrez For the last forty years, and particularly since the height of the gay liberation movement, there has been a rather prolific scholarly project committed to a quest for the historical roots of contemporary homosexuality. In this search for older forms, alternative patterns, and cultural variants of signification of sexual behavior between and among men, one can point to the absolutely catalytic documentary history that Jonathan Katz edited. In his massive and foundational Gay American History: Lesbians and Gay Men in the U.S.A. (1976), Katz chronicled patterns of homosexuality in what is now the United States from pre-Columbian times to the present. Among the many things that he uncovered were the shards of a Native American tradition that was known only to a few anthropologists, and before that, to a number of early sixteenth-century European explorers and missionaries.1 Called berdache by Europeans and by a more complex set of indigenous terms in the Americas, these men who had sex with other men were particularly fascinating. Not only did they offer exclusive sexual service to members of their own sex, but they also were transvested as women and performed women’s work. A number of historians and anthropologists were fascinated by this discovery and set out to chronicle the berdache tradition. They saw in it a potential model for childhood socialization that might ultimately lead to gay liberation, and if not that, at least a path toward a more gender tolerant society for tomboys and sissies to develop into lesbians and gays. While American scholars have called the berdache a “third sex,” a “fourth sex,” “two-spirited persons,” and “man/woman,” to the Zuñi Indians they were 19 la’mana, to the Tewa they were quetho, and to the Navajo they were nadle.2 The berdache putatively embodied both the masculine and the feminine, moved easily between the segregated worlds of indigenous men and women, and offered moderns an alternative, more natural and less constrained way to live and love. Anthropologists like Will Roscoe and Walter L. Williams celebrated the berdache, situating them in mystical New Age worlds, heralding their primitive premodern ways, unfettered by homophobic cultures, and free of rigid masculine and feminine gender roles.3 Many of these unwitting projections backward of the then contemporary gay liberation moment’s politics of yearning profoundly distorted the history of the berdache. As will be argued below, what we mainly know about the history of the berdache has them located in warps of masculine power, in warfare, slavery and exploitation, not in worlds of egalitarian possibilities and of gender harmony and accord. The lives of the berdache were lives of humiliation and endless work, not of celebration and veneration. Here we will study historically how the berdache were first described by European colonial soldiers and priests in the 1500s, where they were located socially in the gender division of labor; and whom and how they served. Clearly these European observers came with a set of biases that were hard for them to overcome, but they nevertheless were intent on trying to understand indigenous social organization in order to conquer and eventually exploit the natives, or in the case of the missionaries, to Christianize . While this historical excursion will be limited primarily to those areas previously under Spanish control that ultimately became part of what is today the American Southwest, larger hemispheric patterns and longer historical trends will also be noted. Native American berdache still exist among many tribal groups in North and South America. Here we reference their experiences particularly as they illuminate larger historical patterns and permutations of longer institutional histories. When Spanish soldiers and missionaries first saw Native American men pressed into impersonating females, forced to perform women’s work, dressing as women, and offering receptive sexual service only to men, they asserted that these individuals were living in bradaje. Bradaje as a word was derived from the Arabic bradaj, which means male prostitute; hence the English word berdache. Bradaje was something Europeans were quite familiar with in the fifteenth and sixteenth centuries, having inherited it themselves from East Asia and Islamic Africa where it was extensive. When they found men so employed in Florida and New Mexico, in central Mex20 r a m ó n g u t i é r r e z ico and in the highlands of Peru, they were not particularly surprised and...


Shamanic Cultures

quariwarmi (men-women) shamans mediated between the symmetrically dualistic spheres of Andean cosmology and daily life by performing rituals that at times required same-sex erotic practices. Their transvested attire served as a visible sign of a third space that negotiated between the masculine and the feminine, the present and the past, the living and the dead. Their shamanic presence invoked the androgynous creative force often represented in Andean mythology.”

Among the 19th century Chuckchi, the “soft men” (yirka-lául) were a category of biologically male shamans who adopted first female hairstyle, then female dress, and finally married males. They were hated and scorned but also feared by the rest of the Chuckchi, as they were considered to be much more powerful than other shamans (Price 2002, 302).[81] The masculine gendered males who married the yirka-lául were not seen as ‘third genders’ but as ‘men.’

Malidoma Some about the Dagara- in an interview  http://www.csuchico.edu/pub/inside/archive/01_03_29/07.gatekeeper.html

“The Dagara not only embrace gay and lesbian diversity, he noted, but honor such individuals as “gatekeepers” between the physical world and the divine. In Dagara cosmology, geography is not only physical, but an energetic existence encompassing other realities crucial to the spiritual health of the individual and the community, explained Some. among the Dagara people, gender has very little to do with anatomy. It is purely energetic. In that context, a male who is physically male can vibrate female energy, and vice versa. That is where the real gender is. Entrance to these worlds is facilitated by the gatekeeper, who is born with the ability to participate in a wider web of consciousness.

Although not all gatekeepers in the Dagara tribe are gay or lesbian, “all gays and lesbians are gatekeepers,” said Some.

“Without the gatekeeper,” he added, “we’re left with a gate unattended” — a sort of spiritual clamping down. Not only is the gatekeeper then robbed of his or her identity, but the community is left without a source of spiritual solace.

The gay person is looked at primarily as a “gatekeeper.” The Earth is looked at, from my tribal perspective, as a very, very delicate machine or consciousness, with high vibrational points, which certain people must be guardians of in order for the tribe to keep its continuity with the gods and with the spirits that dwell there. Spirits of this world and spirits of the other worlds. Any person who is at this link between this world and the other world experiences a state of vibrational consciousness which is far higher, and far different, from the one that a normal person would experience. This is what makes a gay person gay. This kind of function is not one that society votes for certain people to fulfill. It is one that people are said to decide on prior to being born. You decide that you will be a gatekeeper before you are born. And it is that decision that provides you with the equipment (Malidoma gestures by circling waist area with hands) that you bring into this world. So when you arrive here you begin to vibrate in a way that Elders can detect as meaning that you are connected with a gateway somewhere. Then they watch you grow, and they watch you act and react, and sooner or later they will follow you to the gateway that you are connected with.

Now, gay people have children. Because they’re fertile, just like normal people. How I got to know that they were gay was because on arriving in this country and seeing the serious issues surrounding gay people, I began to wonder it does not exist in my own country. When I asked one of them, who tad taken me to the threshold of the Otherworld, whether he feels sexual attraction towards another man, he jumped back and said, “How do you know that?!” He said, “This is our business as gatekeepers.” And, yet he had a wife and children — no problem, you see.

So to then limit gay people to simple sexual orientation is really the worst harm that can be done to a person. That all he or she is is a sexual person. And, personally, because of the fact that my knowledge of indigenous medicine, ritual, comes from gatekeepers, it’s hard for me to take this position that gay people are the negative breed of a society. No! In a society that is profoundly dysfunctional, what happens is that peoples’ life purposes are taken away, and what is left is this kind of sexual orientation which, in turn, is disturbing to the very society that created it.

I think this is again victimization by a Christian establishment that is looking at a gay person as a disempowered person, a person who has lost his job from birth onward, and now society just wants to fire him out of life. This is not justice. It’s not justice. It is a terrible harm done to an energy that could save the world, that could save us. If, today, we are suffering from a gradual ecological waste, this is simply because the gatekeepers have been fired from their job. They have been fired! They have nothing to do! And because they have been fired, we accuse them for not doing anything. This is not fair!

Let us look at the earth differently, and we will find out gradually that these people that are bothering us today are going to start taking their posts. They know what their job is. You just have to get near them, to feel that they don’t vibrate the same way. They are not of this world. They come from the Otherworld, and they were sent here to keep the gates open to the Otherworld, because if the gates are shut, this is when the earth, Mother Earth, will shake — because it has no more reason to be alive, it will shake itself, and we will be in deep trouble.

By the time we reach a certain level, all the gatekeepers are going to find their positions again. We cannot tell them where the gates are. They know. If we start to heal ourselves, they will remember. It will kick in. But as long as we continue in arrogance, in egotism, in God-knows-what form of violence on ourselves, no, there’s that veil of confusion that’s going to continue to prevail, and as a result it’s going to prevent great things from happening.”

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Global Terms

Though the term transgender is often used as a broad and universalizing identity category, the term’s western origin and logic prevent it from accurately representing the gender diversity that exists around the world. To address problematic deployments of transgender, Dutta and Roy suggest that, “rather than use transgender as an umbrella term encompassing all possible gender variant identities, it is perhaps better deployed as an analytic rubric for variant and liminal gendered positions” (334). Following this advice, the DTA uses transgender as an “analytic rubric” (rather than an identity label) to aggregate related materials while simultaneously recognizing that the term is often imprecise with respect to time, place, and individual identities.

We offer the following list of global terms to begin distinguishing among gender-nonconforming practices in various geographic and cultural contexts. Some entries may not fully capture the nuances of particular terms, which are often complex and culturally dependent (similar to the complexity of transgender). Many terms listed have ambiguous or multiple definitions, intersect with other gender identities and sexual orientations, and can depend on personal interpretation, cultural background, and location. Some terms are linked to specific regions or tribes, but they may extend across national borders and may not be limited to the countries listed. A single term may exist in multiple dialects and languages, or may bear different meanings within a single language.

In compiling this list of more than 60 terms, we consulted various sources including PBS’s “A Map of Gender-Diverse Cultures,” which offers especially useful information. We encourage you to contact us with suggestions, corrections, and new information!

Acaults (Myanmar): “A third gender consisting of males assuming the dress and social role of women is known in Burmese slang as acault. Acaults often serve as spirit mediums in the indigenous animistic belief system. While some acault are gay, not all are.” –PBS

Travesti (Brazil): “[. . .] a travesti is a person who was born male, has a feminine gender identity, and is primarily sexually attracted to non-feminine men. Travestis' feminine identity includes feminine dress, language, and social and sexual roles. However, in contrast to transsexual women, they often don't see themselves as women, and many describe themselves as gay or homosexual. Travestis may modify their bodies with hormones or silicone, but rarely seek genital surgery.” –PBS

Tida wena (Venezuela): A two-spirit identity among the Warao people, an indigenous Venezuelan culture. Translated to “twisted women,” the term describes individuals who are neither men nor women. They are thought to possess two spirits and often assume the role of shaman. 

Third Gender (South Asia): This term is used throughout South Asia to describe individuals whose gender expressions or identities are neither male nor female. Many countries also use culturally specific terms that refer to such individuals. Third gender rights have been recognized by Supreme Courts in countries such as India, Nepal, Iran, and Pakistan, though individuals continue to face social prejudice

Nadleehi (Navajo tribe, North America): “The Navajo term nadleehi refers to that culture's traditional third gender, in which a…male-born person embodies both the masculine and feminine spirit.” –PBS

Metis (Nepal): “The term meti is an indigenous term for a third gender in Nepal with a long and checkered history in the Himalayan region. They a [sic] born as males, but assume feminine dress and carriage. For the last 30 years, most Metis make their living as prostitutes. They do not consider themselves gay, but rather as a third gender that is interested in straight men." –PBS

Mahu (French Polynesia): Though mahu of French Polynesia are culturally distinct from Hawaiian mahu, there are few extensive definitions available. The term appears to describe male-bodied individuals who assume social roles of women. Mahu groom and dress themselves as women and engage in the same crafts and employment. They are not usually castrated.

Lhamana (Zuni tribe, North America): “The two-spirit Zuni tradition is known as lhamana, in which a person lives as both genders simultaneously. They play a key role in society as mediators, priests, and artists, and perform both traditional women's work (pottery and crafts) as well as traditional men's work (hunting).” –PBS

Hwame (Mohave tribe, North America): “The creation myth of the Mohave tribe speaks to a time when humans were not sexually or gender-differentiated. The recognize four genders: men, women, hwame (male-identified females) and alyha (female-identified males).” –PBS

Femminiello (Italy): “[Femminiello] refers to [birth-assigned] males who dress as women and assume female gender roles in Neopolitan society. Their station in society is (or was up through the 19th century) privileged, and the rituals (including marriage to one another) was based on Greek mythology related to Hermaphroditus and Teresias (who was transformed into a woman for seven years).” –PBS

Fa’afafine (Samoan culture, New Zealand): “Fa'afafine are [birth-assigned] males who have a strong feminine gender orientation, which the Samoan parents recognize quite early in childhood, and then raise them as female children or rather third gender children. Fa'afafine traditionally assume roles of family care, although they are present in many spheres of Samoan society.” Birth-assigned females with a strong masculine gender orientation are referred to as <em>fa’afatama</em>.  –PBS and Naple     Note: Beliefs vary regarding whether fa’afafine identification can be reared or if it is innate. While records exist of young boys raised as girls against their will, some sources claim that contemporary fa’afafines are more likely to self-identify and not be forced.

I would say I could be called a "Travesti" or she-male,for example if one reads ,Don Kulick's study "BRAZILIAN TRANSGENDERED PROSTITUTES / DON KULICK

excerpt from Don Kulick's study- " When I first began asking travestis that question, I expected them to tell me that they wanted the body of a woman because they felt themselves to be women. That was not the answer I received. No one ever offered the explanation that they might be women trapped in male bodies, even when I suggested it. In fact, there is a strong consensus among travestis in Salvador that any travesti who claims to be a woman is mentally dis- turbed. A travesti is not a woman and can never be a woman, they tell one another, because God created them male. As individuals, they are free to embellish and augment what God has given them, but their sex cannot be changed. Any attempt to do so would be di- sastrous. Not only do sex-change operations not pro- duce women (they produce, travestis say, only bichas castradas, castrated homosexuals), they also inevitably result in madness. I was told on numerous occasions that, without a penis, semen cannot leave the body. When trapped, it travels to the brain, where it collects and forms a Zstone" that will continue to increase in size until it eventually causes insanity.

I am content that I am "psychologically female",at least much more female then male,believe me I wish at time to have a female body

  Ten Intersex people have contributed to all historical eras and human societies and cultures and their presence and contributions are also celebrated in myths such as those mentioned by Lantigua. Like real life intersex people, each mythic figure has their own unique story.

1. Hermaphroditus (Greek) (also on Wikipedia)

In Greek mythology, Hermaphroditus was associated with androgyny, at whose sacrifices men and women exchanged garments. Greek historian Diodorus Siculus (1st century BC) in Bibliotheca historica, book IV, 4.6.5 wrote that Hermaphroditus was born of Hermes and Aphrodite and received a name which is a combination of both parents and had a dual gender body.

2. Agdistis (Phrygian, Greek, Roman) (also on Wikipedia)

Agdistis was a deity of Greek, Roman and Anatolian mythology possessing both male and female organs. Some scholars have theorized that Agdistis is part of a continuum of androgynous Anatolian deities (including one called "Adamma") in the 2nd millennium BC.

3. Hapi (Egyptian) (also on Wikipedia)

The Egyptian Nile-flooding god Hapi was considered to be male and wearing the false beard, but was also pictured with pendulous breasts and a large belly as representations of the fertility of the Nile.

4. Ardhanarishvara (Hindu) (also on Wikipedia)

Ardhanarishvara is a composite androgynous half male and half female, split down the middle. The name Ardhanarishvara means "the Lord who is half woman."

5. Lan Caihe (China) (also on Wikipedia)

Lan Caihe is one of the Eight Immortals. Lan Caihe's age and sex are unknown. Lan is depicted in ambiguous clothing or as a young boy or girl carrying a bamboo flower basket, and is associated with male minstrels and female singers. Like the other immortals, Lan Caihe left this world by flying on a heavenly swan or crane into heaven.

6. Ymir (Norse) (also on Wikipedia)

In Norse mythology Ymir is a primeval being in the Edda and skalds. Ymir birthed a male and female. Scholars have linked Ymir to Tuisto, who some scholars argue is a "two-fold" or hermaphroditic being.  Scholars also believe that Ymir is an echo of a primordial being reconstructed in Proto-Indo-European mythology (Persian and Vedic) and the Egyptian goddess Hathor.

7. Ometeotl (Aztec) (also on Wikipedia)

Ometeotl (Two God) is the combined god Ometecuhtli (male)/Omecihuatl (female) or Tonacatecuhtli (male)/Tonacacihuatl (female) in Aztec mythology. This"Lord of the Duality" is the supreme creator deity.

8. G-d (Jewish) (also on Orthodox Union)

According to the rabbinic commentaries on Genesis the Primordial Human (Adam means human) was not a male, but both a male and a female, one face forward, one face behind. The Hebrew word tzela mistranslated in some Christian Bibles as “rib†means “side.†Since Adam was made in resemblance of G-d, then G-d is a being of all genders.

9. Phanes (Greek) (also on Wikipedia)

Phanes was the mystic primeval deity of procreation and the generation of new life, who was introduced into Greek mythology by the Orphic tradition. Other names for Phanes are Ericapaeus, Metis ("thought") and Protogenus ("First Born"). Phanes was depicted as androgynous with several animal heads and golden wings.

10. Ahsonnutli (Navaho) (see History of Arizona, Navaho)

“In the Ure mountains lived two women, Ahsonnutli, the turquoise hermaphrodite, and Yolaikaiason, the white shell woman... ‘Ahsonnutli, the hermaphrodite, had white beads in her right breast, and turquoise in her left... And Ahsonnutli commanded the twelve men to go to the east, south, west and north, to hold up the heavens, which office they are supposed to perform to this day.â€

Read the original article (with images) at Lusmerlin's Blog: "Ten Intersex Gods and Goddesses" by Lusmerlin Lantigua

I simply learned,accepted it ok to be a "Fem-male",even though living in a Society constrained by "Ego"

Rather than the physical body, Native Americans emphasised a person's "spirit", or character, as being most important. Instead of seeing two-spirit persons as transsexuals who try to make themselves into "the opposite sex", it is more accurate to understand them as individuals who take on a gender status that is different from both men and women. This alternative gender status offers a range of possibilities, from slightly effeminate males or masculine females, to androgynous or transgender persons, to those who completely cross-dress and act as the other gender. The emphasis of Native Americans is not to force every person into one box, but to allow for the reality of diversity in gender and sexual identities.

Most of the evidence for respectful two-spirit traditions is focused on the native peoples of the Plains, the Great Lakes, the Southwest, and California. With over a thousand vastly different cultural and linguistic backgrounds, it is important not to overgeneralise for the indigenous peoples of North America. Some documentary sources suggest that a minority of societies treated two-spirit persons disrespectfully, by kidding them or discouraging children from taking on a two-spirit role. However, many of the documents that report negative reactions are themselves suspect, and should be evaluated critically in light of the preponderance of evidence that suggests a respectful attitude. Some European commentators, from early frontier explorers to modern anthropologists, also were influenced by their own homophobic prejudices to distort native attitudes.

In the 20th-century, as homophobic European Christian influences increased among many Native Americans, respect for same-sex love and for androgynous persons greatly declined. Two-spirit people were often forced, either by government officials, Christian missionaries or their own community, to conform to standard gender roles. Some, who could not conform, either went underground or committed suicide. With the imposition of Euro-American marriage laws, same-sex marriages between two-spirit people and their spouses were no longer legally recognised. But with the revitalisation of Native American "red power" cultural pride since the 60s, and the rise of gay and lesbian liberation movements at the same time, a new respect for androgyny started slowly re-emerging among American Indian people.-excerpt from "The 'two-spirit' people of indigenous North Americans" 

The Social Construction of Gender

That gender is a social construct becomes especially apparent when one compares how men and women behave across different cultures, and how in some cultures and societies, other genders exist too.

In Western industrialized nations like the U.S., people tend to think of masculinity and femininity in dichotomous terms, viewing men and women as distinctly different and opposites. Other cultures, however, challenge this assumption and have less distinct views of masculinity and femininity. For example, historically there was a category of people in the Navajo culture called berdaches, who were anatomically normal men but who were defined as a third gender considered to fall between male and female.

Berdaches married other ordinary men (not Berdaches), although neither was considered homosexual, as they would be in today’s Western culture.

What this suggests is that we learn gender through the process of socialization. For many people, this process begins before they are even born, with parents selecting gendered names on the basis of the sex of a fetus, and by decorating the incoming baby's room and selecting its toys and clothes in color-coded and gendered ways that reflect cultural expectations and stereotypes. Then, from infancy on, we are socialized by family, educators, religious leaders, peer groups, and the wider community, who teach us what is expected from us in terms of appearance and behavior based on whether they code us as a boy or a girl. Media and popular culture play important roles in teaching us gender too.

One result of gender socialization is the formation of gender identity, which is one’s definition of oneself as a man or woman. Gender identity shapes how we think about others and ourselves and also influences our behaviors. For example, gender differences exist in the likelihood of drug and alcohol abuse, violent behavior, depression, and aggressive driving.

Gender identity also has an especially strong effect on how we dress and present ourselves, and what we want our bodies to look like, as measured by "normative" standards.-ThoughtCo.com

The Berdache Tradition Walter L. Willams

                     But to American Indians,  the institution of another gender role means that berdaches are not deviant-indeed, they do conform to the requirements of a custom in which their culture tells them they fit. Berdachism is a way for society to recognize and assimilate some atypical individuals without imposing a change on them or stigmatizing them as deviant. This cultural institution confirms their legitimacy for what they are. Societies often bestow power upon that which does not neatly fit into the usual. Since no cultural system can explain everything, a common way that many cultures deal with these inconsistencies is to imbue them with negative power, as taboo, pollution, witchcraft, or sin. That which is not understood is seen as a threat. But an alternative method of dealing with such things, or people, is to take them out of the realm of threat and to sanctify them.' The berdaches' role as mediator is thus not just between women and men, but also between the physical and the spiritual. American Indian cultures have taken what Western culture calls negative, and made it a positive; they have successfully utilized the different skills and insights of a class of people that Western culture has stigmatized and whose spiritual powers have been wasted. Many Native Americans also understood that gender roles have to do with more than just biological sex. The standard Western view that one's sex is always a certainty, and that one's gender identity and sex role always conform to one's morphological sex is a view that dies hard. Western thought is typified by such dichotomies of groups perceived to be mutually exclusive: male and female, black and white, right and wrong, good and evil. Clearly, the world is not so simple; such clear divisions are not always realistic. Most American Indian worldviews generally are much more accepting of the ambiguities of life. Acceptance of gender variation in the berdache tradition is typical of many native cultures' approach to life in general.

In most tribes a relationship between a two-spirit and non-two-spirit was seen for the most part as neither heterosexual nor homosexual (in modern-day terms) but more hetero-normative; European colonists, however, saw such relationships as homosexual. Partners of two-spirits have not historically viewed themselves as homosexual, and moreover drew a sharp conceptual line between themselves and two-spirits.[30]

In Treuer’s stunning book The Assassination of Hole in the Day about the great 19th-century Ojibwe chief, he notes, “Sex usually determined one’s gender, and therefore one’s work, but the Ojibwe accepted variation. Men who chose to function as women were called ikwekanaazo, meaning ‘one who endeavors to be like a woman. Women who functioned as men were called ininiikaazo, meaning, one who endeavors to be like a man.”

He further notes, “the role of ikwekanaazo and ininiikaazo in Ojibwe society was considered to be sacred, often because they assumed their roles based on spiritual dreams or visions.”

In addition to written scholarly documents, Treuer regularly works with elders and speakers of the language on his work. Far more than mere consultation, working with elders and other community members ensures that the essence of the language, the primary conveyor of spirituality and culture, remains strong and true.

As elders age and die, much of the past dies with them. Therefore, much of what we know about the roles of the ikwekanaazo and the ininiikaazo has been given to us by the conquerors.

The legacy of Western domination robbed many, including Native Americans, of any religion or culture that fell outside of narrow Western norms.- Mary Annette Pember

Excerpt from "

Thoughts on Female Sexual Psychology

Dr. Nelson Soucasaux, Brazilian gynecologist

We know that the self-erotic and narcissist feature of female sexuality is very strong. The manner and the effort with which the most elegant women care for their bodies and seek to beautify themselves by far surpasses the natural vanity related to the body that also exists in men. It is obvious that this attitude, in part, serves to attract men, since the male sexual desire is mostly stimulated by the sight and the aesthetics of the woman's body.

However, here, the high degree of self-eroticism characteristic of the female sex also plays an important role, given the pleasure that women feel in exhibiting their bodies. Frequently only by doing that do many women feel a good degree of sexual satisfaction ­ though, obviously, this is not all. Quoting Gikovate: "...starting with puberty, this pleasure is strongly reinforced by the fact that the female body becomes desirable to men; thus, for women, the pleasure in exhibiting themselves interweaves with the pleasure of feeling desired, in a way that this aspect of sexuality might assume a fundamental importance." (Gikovate, F.: "O Instinto Sexual" ["The Sexual Instinct"], MG Editores, São Paulo, Brazil, 1980)

I believe it is possible to consider women as being, to a considerable extent, sexual objects for themselves. Symmetry is something that does not seem to exist between the female sexual desire and the male one. In men, the physical sense that first arouses desire is sight, specifically the sight of the female body. Conversely, in women, sight seems to have less importance in arousing the sexual impulse, since there are indications that they are much more attracted by the features of men's personalities than by male bodies (though presently some women "pretend" to feel as much attracted by men's bodies as men are by women's bodies). Quoting Gikovate once again: "A woman . . . is not sexually attracted by a man's body; her enchantment is more related to some characteristics that are capable of arousing a feeling of love. As love is a feeling that originates from admiration, the interest of a woman in a man occurs essentially because he possesses characteristics that she considers as positive . . . ."

There are indications that, in women, the tactile stimulation of their bodies is of greater importance than sight arousing the sexual impulse. We also can say that, while men desire women directly, women, to a considerable extent, seem to desire the desire that men feel for them - though, of course, this is not all. In any case, this women's desire of the desire they arouse in men is one more remarkable and evident feature of female psychology.

One of My thoughts about the above (Dr. Nelson Soucasaux's)

                        "women, to a considerable extent, seem to desire the desire that men feel for them ", I can relate to this from the foundation of .1.I want, a man that I am wanting, to have sex with to desire me as "Fem" and to a fairly high degree " I have a strong desire to be Breed",so the more I can present myself as " please treat me as Female". I was never interested in climaxing myself and looking back at all the times I was with men, very few times did I ever have a climax,for example when a man was mounting me and thrusting in and out of my bottom,I was always in a total submissive state-"waiting to be impregnated".- me 5/31/2018

       2. This is a big reason I define myself as Fem-male,(I realize to idea of being actually female,having a man's baby is silly),yet often I would tell a man I really liked "I wish I could have your baby",also I loved when a man would say "Michael you should have been born a girl" or something to that "effect",I never minded if guys called me a "slut-boy",sissy-boy" etc...this why I don't liked being defined as "Gay" or even Homosexual,as in my mind,,those words just don't define myself properly.

       3. Even when I was with Women,I felt as though that I wished I was Fem, tell them ,I want pegged,share a real man with them,
I have been in the below situation a few times,both taking a real man orally and anally,having a female see me swallow a man's climax ,or being watched by her as he climaxes into my bottom,is a great expression for me to show my role as Fem-male,and reveal that I can be a safe alternative,to sexually please her man.I also believe this is main reason I have remained single,as this is the only type relationship I desire, a Triad relationship as I describe in "Terrace"

I am not sure why ,it is yet " to be accepted by Females in the Role of Fem-male and being Female like for a man,like seen below,is very important to myself.

one of my ultimate expressions of Fem-male sexual
myself in my "role"

I personal have been in the "Role" above where the Real-man is allowing a fem-male to perform "fellatio",with a female accepting the fem-males role,there was no humiliation factor,disgrace etc.I very much believe "Cisgender" men and women,can and hope-fully will someday embrace the fact that people like myself can join them in a" monogamous-triad partnership"

One thing I think that is Pathetic in a modern society is spread of "STD's"

How long do HIV test results take? How are they reported?- 

How long do results take?

Rapid HIV tests can give results in 15—60 minutes, or on the same day.

‘Rapid’ refers for the time taken for the results and not the time since exposure that a test can be used.

If samples are being sent to another lab, results can take a few days or a few weeks.

Rapid blood tests put a pin-prick of blood on a testing strip. This test takes about 15-20 minutes so you can get the results whilst you wait.

Some rapid tests also work on oral samples rather than blood. Although they are sometimes called saliva tests this is not accurate. Oral samples collect cells from the surface of the gums and not saliva. These cells contain HIV antibodies.

How Long Does It Take To Get Std Test Results?

I just picked a random state."Flordia"floridahealth.gov

Clinic Services

Clinical services are provided in strict confidence and are available to anyone who seeks care for the prevention of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs). Clinic sites in each Florida County offer STD services on a reasonable and/or no cost basis to adults and adolescents, regardless of their citizenship status. All clients, including adolescents are assured confidential STD clinical services by Florida Law.

Clinical services for STDs include: health history and risk assessment, physical examination, STD testing as indicated, treatment and counseling. HIV testing is offered. You will be asked to return to the clinic for test results. If, at the time of your visit, the clinic doctor or nurse practitioner diagnoses that you have an STD, you will be provided treatment during the visit, or given a prescription to purchase treatment at a pharmacy. Trained counselors will talk with you about reducing your risk for getting STDs and how to prevent infections from spreading to your partners.

I also believe that both the Male and Female "Ego" is the most dangerous thing that Exist in Nature

-causing all wars,most of every in-natural disaster,harm in every-way.

I Think Nature(God) gave us a "Ego" for Self-preservation only,yet humanity has endorsed it,elevated it so far out of balance it is now out of control.

Social implications

The desire for self-preservation has led to countless laws and regulations surrounding a culture of safety in society.[10] Seat belt laws, speed limits, texting regulations, and the "stranger danger" campaign should all be familiar examples of societal guides and regulations to enhance survival, and these laws are heavily influenced by the pursue of self-preservation.

Economic impacts

Self-preservation urges animals to collect energy and resources required to prolong life as well as resources that increase chances of survival. Basic needs are available to most humans (roughly 7 out of 8 people),[11] and usually rather cheaply. The instinct that drives us to gather resources now drives us to over-consumption or to patterns of collection and possession that essentially make hoarding resources the priority.[12]

The Dangers of Self-Preservation    We all like to survive.  Survival is a good thing.  And humans have a hereditary self-preservation mechanism to protect our survival.  But sometimes that survival mechanism actually becomes harmful to you…

Here’s why:

Of course your self-preservation instinct is there to protect you from danger.  But it does more.

It also wants to protect you from pain.  It moves you away form things you perceive as painful, and moves you toward things you perceive as pleasurable.  And some of those things you see as painful probably include failure, embarrassment and humiliation.  And we live in a society that offers lots of opportunities for failure, embarrassment and humiliation.

The Ego and Ascension



There comes a stage in Spiritual Development, when you will experience the conflict between the Fears of the Ego and the Power of The Source, the Oneness.

During this stage of Conflict, you will feel as if you are teeter-tottering between the two. One moment Spirituality is in the forefront. The next moment it is the Ego dominating your Thoughts and Actions.

Your True Personality, your Self, is coming forth into your Consciousness and is a more powerful Vibration than the Ego. As your True Self emerges it will challenge how you Think, how you See the World, and how you Live your Human Life.

  As Spiritual Awareness begins to grow Stronger, the Ego will begin to Diminish.

The Ego is an Illusion-Based Entity
created when Your Eternal Energy entered
into a Human Host.

The Ego is your Human Self. It allows you to be Conscious
within the Dense, Three Dimensional Realm,
You have placed Yourself.

The Ego is NOT you.

You are The Great Observer, The Source.


Living as a Human, within the
Third, Fourth and Fifth-Dimensions,
is only The Great Observer discovering
its Divine Self, within this Density.

I think for myself embracing my self as "Fem-male" as greatly helped to diminish my ego,I don't have to fight to seem "manly"..I don't care how "big my cock is",nor a need to use it, I want to be seen as "Fem",sexually it ok that I want to be ,at least like a Women. Yet even though I desire "Cisgender Men" to be a "Fem-male" for, I don't want a "Ego-centered type man",I want him to very manly when "Fucking me",I like to asked,not told,,example say he wants his cock sucked,,I want him to say something like "Michael,..you want to suck my cock?"-and 99.9% of the time I most likely already be wanting to!-"just treat me like your Lady",I'm no different then any other lady,just different body.

You hear the term "Homophobia"-Wikipedia


Homophobia encompasses a range of negative attitudes and feelings toward homosexuality or people who are identified or perceived as being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT).[1][2][3] It has been defined as contempt, prejudice, aversion, hatred or antipathy, may be based on irrational fear, and is often related to religious beliefs.[4][5]

Homophobia is observable in critical and hostile behavior such as discrimination and violence on the basis of sexual orientations that are non-heterosexual.[1][2][6] Recognized types of homophobia include institutionalized homophobia, e.g. religious homophobia and state-sponsored homophobia, and internalized homophobia, experienced by people who have same-sex attractions, regardless of how they identify.- I personal can't imagine fearing someone due to their sexual orientation- to a certain extent "Whom is mental ill here?"   "Based on a irrational fear"   as when people are irrationalUsually you use irrational to describe ideas and thoughts that are not based on reason, although emotions and behavior can be irrational too if they don't seem reasonable. Do you jump onto a chair and scream when you see a mouse? If so, you have an irrational fear of mice, or musophobia. If someone takes a swing at you for failing to say excuse me when you burp, both their anger and their actions could be called irrational

For me ,I think irrational stands for "lack of maturity","not thinking","out of control","lose of control" or restoring to primitive ways,or due to ego,has the inability to admit a mistake or adapt to the current situation.

"Due to ego,has the inability to admit a mistake or adapt to the current situation"- how many horrors as this caused?

We have created a "Irrational society",just by the simply fact of "hurrying for no real reason" example - how many small planes crash,just because "in a hurry" or car accidents for that matter!

The early Europeans visitors to the Society Islands were amazed to find Tahitian males who lived as women and were totally accepted in this role by the island community.

"The Native Hawaiian activist and Performer Kaumakaiwa Kanaka’ole has described māhū as the expression of the third self:  “It is not a gender, it’s not an orientation, it’s not a sect, it’s not a particular demographic and it’s definitely not a race. It is simply an expression of the third person as it involves the individual. When you find that place in yourself to acknowledge both male and female aspects within and accept the capacity to embrace both … that is where the māhū exists and true liberation happens”  (“The Beautiful Way Hawaiian Culture Embraces a Particular Kind of Transgender Identity,” Huffington Post, April 28, 2015). "

“Before the coming of foreigners to our islands, we Hawaiians lived in aloha, in harmony with the land and with one another. Every person had their role in society, whether male, female, or māhū, those who embrace both the feminine and masculine traits that are embodied within each and every one of us. Māhū were valued and respected as caretakers, healers, and teachers of ancient traditions. We passed on sacred knowledge from one generation to the next through hula, chant, and other forms of wisdom.

“When American missionaries arrived in the 1800s, they were shocked and infuriated by these practices and did everything they could to abolish them. They condemned our hula and chant as immoral. They outlawed our language, and they imposed their religious strictures across our lands. But, we Hawaiians are a steadfast and resilient people. So, despite 200 years of colonization and repression, we are still here.” - manoanow.org

I without a Doubt, I can say as a Whole, humanity as lost a great deal of Awareness of "Nature",especially as the "Force of all Creation", this is very evident by the Fact , Humanitiy's creation of "Gods" ,then to think " by one's Ego,the God which one tribe creates,is better then,the other tribes!, "true Insanity"


I see a lot of " Fem-dom"-"Male feminization" type stuff on internet,seems to be a big interest,I wonder why,is it a means for society to "desensitize"   (free (someone) from a phobia or neurosis by gradually exposing the person to the thing that is feared.)

Why is it so difficult for "Humanity" to accept that there is a certain percentage of Human beings that are "Third-gender type"?

For myself it is not "humiliation" to be seen in the Role above it is my "Nature",yet society has said it is wrong for so long,now society believes it is wrong  a "Pre-Concieved Notion", if in the image above,if I was posed "boning a female.though it would be called "Porn" by the majority even though a natural act, why is myself getting "boned" by a male not natural, when it is the Role that suits me best?,and it isn't porn  it is a "sexual action"

In psychology, desensitization is defined as the diminished emotional responsiveness to a negative, aversive or positive stimulus after repeated exposure to it. It also occurs when an emotional response is repeatedly evoked in situations in which the action tendency that is associated with the emotion proves irrelevant or unnecessary. The process of desensitization was developed by psychologist Mary Cover Jones, and is primarily used to assist individuals in unlearning phobias and anxieties.[1][2] Joseph Wolpe (1958) developed a method of a hierarchal list of anxiety evoking stimuli in order of intensity, which allows individuals to undergo adaption.[3] Although medication is available for individuals suffering from anxiety, fear or phobias, empirical evidence supports desensitization with high rates of cure, particularly in clients suffering from depression or schizophrenia.[4]-wikipedia

Is the Whole "Fem-dom" thing simply societies Desensitizing/deconstructing itself, to accept a reality?

            I just wonder how women  whom are being the "femininizer" see this ? ,verse the males whom are being "Femininized",see                 it?. For example ,I have had quite a few women "Peg" me with a strap-on dildo because I asked them to,and they where very               aware of my sexual identity as a Fem-male,several of whom watched as their husband or boyfriend "boned me" none of                   them be-littled me,made fun of me,etc. I've had several women set me up with black guys(straight) whom where willing to                   either have me perform "fellatio" on them,or willing to Bone me,it was really no different then them introducing a girl-friend of               theirs to a guy,they knew that was single and looking, They where able to think outside the box,beyond                 social construct! and see me simply as a single Fem-male,looking- after all,doesn't a civilized society,help each other?

              I don't believe being civilized means telling another what their "Sexual Indentity such be", that is the root of all negative                         thought, as to to tell another how to desire sexually is judging,and if it is not harmful to society,where does this ideology                      come from?,.....if humanity is so civilized why does it flood the Movie Screen with Violence?

"Civilized is an adjective that describes the very opposite of barbarity. A civilized person is polite and courteous; he knows how to say "please" and "thank you." A civilized group of people is characterized by being socially and technologically advanced.

Some thing that is beyond me as well Parents whom act as if they" no-longer" have control over their children by allowing them to get on the " Internet", and blame it on the "Content of the Internet" ,yet buy them the most violent video games,! watch as they play these games!, 

                As far as Sex Education,it didn't exist other then here-say when I was young,however today ,the young people that I                             ask."what is sex education like in today's culture?"- nearly all say- "We have the Internet" and they are very informed as                       to , what is what. so the Internet is filling the role,that parents should be!

             ♠   Here might be a question a young person asks a parent- "What is a- Psychologically Androgynous,Fmale,she/male?"                           what could one answer? → "go ask one!",might be the best reply,instead of conjuring up some bias explaination!

Plato states in this work that homosexuality is not shameful. This is one of the earlier written references to androgyny. Other early references to androgyny include astronomy, where androgyn was a name given to planets that were sometimes warm and sometimes cold.[5]

Philosophers such as Philo of Alexandria, and early Christian leaders such as Origen and Gregory of Nyssa, continued to promote the idea of androgyny as humans' original and perfect state during late antiquity

Gender schema theory- Wikipedia



Core gender identity is tied up in the sex typing that an individual undergoes. This typing can be heavily influenced by child rearing, media, school, and other forms of cultural transmission. Bem refers to four categories in which an individual may fall: sex-typed, cross-sex-typed, androgynous, and undifferentiated. Sex-typed individuals process and integrate information that is in line with their gender. Cross-sex-typed individuals process and integrate information that is in line with the opposite gender. Androgynous individuals process and integrate traits and information from both genders. Finally, undifferentiated individuals do not show efficient processing of sex-typed information.[1]


Bem wished to raise consciousness that the male/female dichotomy is used as an organizing framework, often unnecessarily, especially in the school curriculum. She stressed that the omnirelevance of gender has a negative impact on society, and that the gender schema should be more limited in scope. Within the feminist lens, androgyny is not radical enough, because androgyny means that “masculine” and “feminine” still exist. Rather, society should decrease the use of the gender dichotomy as a functional unit, and be aschematic.

"Positive and Negative Androgyny and Their RelationshipWith Psychological Health and Well-Being" / academia.edu

                       The results of this study have given empirical support to the constructs of positive and negative androgyny. Further, the results suggest that it is not just globally androgynous individuals but those who are positively androgynous who have the potential to live the more fulfilled and complete life that Bem (1975) once envisaged. On a global level, many societies and individuals still seem to encourage undesirable masculine traits, yet Bakan (1966) suggested that an unmitigated or overdeveloped masculinity can be destructive. Most incivilities and violent behavior originate from men’s behavior and negative masculinity has a far reaching effect as it usually impacts on the lives of others (e.g., such traits as aggression, being hard-hearted, indifference, selfishness, showing off, and vindictiveness). Negative femininity severely affects only the individual who displays it (exemplified in such behaviors as being passive, submissive, temperamental, timid, modest, fragile, and mild). When compared to negative masculinity, negative femininitydoesnotinanyrealsenseimpactonthosewhoare exposed to such individuals. With a balanced emphasis on the social world, on relationships, and on communalvalues,positiveandrogynycouldtempercrime and violence,which have been almost exclusively the domain of men(Heilbrun,1981b)as well as reduce the competitive drive which causes greed, individualism, We propose a differentiated androgyny in which positive androgyny holds within it the hope of reducing the effects of undesirable masculinity to the innocuous effects of undesirable femininity. It may provide a key to unlocking the hidden desire of many men for more acceptable and adaptive levels of behavior. The results of this study could revitalize the notionofandrogynyasanidentitywhosetimehascome again. People tend to admire those among us who can express the virtues of both sexes (Woodhill & Samuels, in press); they express what most of us suppress. Support for the validity and utility of differentiating androgyny into positive and negative was here shown. Differences were also revealed for each of the other positive and negative identities. Positive androgyny,positive masculinity,and positive femininity were superior to all other gender role identities and positive androgyny was different from and superior to negative androgyny on measures of psychological health and well-being.

When I took this test, my Score was +32, so fairly Feminine.believe me I tried to be as honest as possible.



Masculine-20 and under
Nearly Masculine-19 to -10
Androgynous-9 to +9
Nearly feminine+9 to +19
Feminine+20 and over

Masculine traits Feminine traits
Rational Emotional
Aggressive Passive
Dominant Submissive
Reasonable Sensitive
Individualistic Nurturing
Source: Christine Monnier
in Global Sociology[1]
from gender polarization / wikipedia

I think, for myself striving for emotional balance is what I wish for most,example I often have "Tears of Joy",cry at movies,I am extremely sensitive(HSP)-Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)-

9/7/2018 I at times can be Assertive, I would call it, like this web journal, I feel there is a need to be some what assertive, yet I rather be passive and some what submissive. I very much don't like Aggressive,violence. for example I caught my employer telling me a straight out lie yesterday, I had to say to him " I don't know if I have caught you at a bad time,I know you've been busy,things have been hectic, yet you know as well as I do,what your telling me now is not the Truth",,he then admitted,"yes your right,"  I very much try to be empathtic,as we all make mistakes. He saved face by admitting verse denying. Lies simply cause -wickness-, in my view.

How your brain reacts to emotional information is influenced by your genes- University of British Columbia


Your genes may influence how sensitive you are to emotional information, according to new research by a UBC neuroscientist. The study, recently published in The Journal of Neuroscience, found that carriers of a certain genetic variation perceived positive and negative images more vividly, and had heightened activity in certain brain regions.

"People really do see the world differently," says lead author Rebecca Todd, a professor in UBC's Department of Psychology. "For people with this gene variation, the emotionally relevant things in the world stand out much more."


Back to my concerns about; Women treating Feminine men,in a disrespectful way(making fun,attempting to Humiliate), I have had this occur often,and it is alarming at best. in my opinion I fear Women, if are not aware of their actions,and could easily adopt the negative Ego traits. We have enough men with Grand Egos, silly, yet afraid true.

excerpt from TheAtlantic.com

     A PSYCHIATRIST AT THE BOSTON UNIVERSITY SCHOOL of Medicine, Richard Pillard is a tall, pleasant man in his fifties with a neatly trimmed moustache and a relaxed manner. Even when talking seriously, he remains goodnatured. When we spoke one afternoon in his Boston townhouse, he joked that he is uniquely equipped to investigate whether homosexuality has a biological basis: he, his brother, and his sister are gay, and Pillard believes that his father may have been gay. One of Pillard's three daughters from a marriage early in life is bisexual. This family history seems to invite a biological explanation, and it made Pillard start thinking about the origins of sexual orientation.

Pillard says that it had long puzzled him why transsexuals—men or women who wish to live in bodies of the opposite sex—are so different from gay people: "You'd think they'd be on the far end of the spectrum, the 'gayest of the gay.'" And yet transsexuals are not in fact gay. Whereas gay men, quite comfortably and unalterably, see themselves as men, male transsexuals see themselves as women trapped in men's bodies. -the way I see my identity,it is much more important for me to be feminine feeling,-being in female role ,...then actual sexual activity,for example as long as I can remember,when I masturbate "I imagine I am female like,and I have a male's cock inside of me ejactulating.I never imagine having sex with a female,and don't recall ever imagining having sex with a female where my cock is in her. /me

A very important thing for myself when meeting a male,talking to him about actually meeting and having sex-" I must make it very clear to Him,that I am a male that wishs to be Female like,I wish I was a female,that I want him to see me as a Fem-male,call me a Fem-male,siisy-boy etc.Call me "Michelle",treat me like a "Lady".- this is very important to myself this be defined

-Adult site-The above website shows the type of Gender I identify with,and wish I looked similar to several of them (she-male,TS-girl)- 

for myself,though I can only be in female role

Which gender best describes you?

More options

Woman-Man-Agender-Androgynous-Bigender-Cis Man-Cis Woman-Genderfluid-Genderqueer-Gender Nonconforming-Hijra-Intersex-Non-binary-Other-Pangender-Transfeminine-Transgender-Transmasculine-Transsexual-Trans Man-Trans Woman-Two Spirit
                         I marked the identities above that I feel best describe myself-in short you could call me a "Transgender-Woman",not "Transexual women" by today's definition.In others words,I would rather appear as a Women,yet have not taken transitioning steps towards that wish.
Though I don't think it would matter if I had a penis,and lean toward "Wish I didn't "→Thus would make me more "Fem-like",in realistic terms..I am psychologically already very "Feminine",and sexually I can be in the Role of Female,just fine.Even if I had another Life,I probably would transition to having breasts,do hormones,dress as a female,hair,make my appearance defined "Female " thus my term "Fem-male ".Sexually I would still wish to have a Straight Male partner/husband/boyfriend/soulmate, yet could also be in a "Triad relationship" as I describe in "Terrace"

A trans woman (sometimes trans-woman or transwoman) is a woman who was assigned male at birth. The label of transgender woman is not always interchangeable with that of transsexual woman, although the two labels are often used in this manner. Transgender is an umbrella term that includes different types of gender variant people (including transsexual people).

Both transsexual and transgender women may transition, though only transsexual women medically transition

I thought the above sites had some great content.