A Human Essential the Need to " Belong "

         "try living alone on your own little island, for even a month, see when you start to lose your Mind "

     " And for the psychosexual female roled person ("transsexual") finding that "belonging" is difficult at best "

                    "And because we take this for " Granted ", it's easy to not realize how vitally important it to another " - me

Why is it, if a person can't find a partner, 

they will most likely have a pet, and that is why the Dog has accompanied humanity through-out history.

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         " According to a landmark paper by psychologists Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary it’s because of a fundamental “need to belong.”1 The “belongingness hypothesis” states that people have a basic psychological need to feel closely connected to others, and that caring, affectionate bonds from close relationships are a major part of human behavior."

Forming social bonds – People readily form relationships with others without being paid or forced to do so, and do so even under adverse circumstances. For example, infants and children will form attachments to others even though they have little or no knowledge of their social world and are incapable of calculating benefits or costs to these relationships.

Not breaking bonds – People are eager to have close relationships and are reluctant to break them once formed, even when the relationship is marked by distress, conflict, or even abuse. People often avoid permanent separation (breakups, divorce, death), even when the costs of staying in the relationship are greater than leaving.

Cognition – When we feel close to others, our thoughts change such that a cognitive “merging” effect occurs; people begin to include aspects of their relationship partner in their own self-concept. The boundaries between individual partners break down in relationships, and people think of their own fate as being intertwined with the fate of others.

Emotional highs and lows – No matter how you slice it, relationships carry immense emotional weight. People feel a great deal of positive emotion (e.g., joy, bliss, love), especially during the early stages of relationships. People also feel lots of negative emotions and distress (e.g., anxiety, anger, jealousy) when things aren’t going well.

Consequences of deprivation – When people lack meaningful close relationships with others, they suffer. Specifically, married individuals are healthier, less stressed out, and are expected to live longer than single individuals (not to stigmatize singles here). Close relationships boost people’s immune systems.

Partial deprivation – Even within highly satisfying relationships, being separated from a loved one (or having restricted interactions) produces distress and sadness. When couples are separated (through things like work-related distance, military duty, or even prison) they report more loneliness.

Satiation and substitution – There is such a thing as too many close relationships. People strongly prefer to have (and are only capable of having) a few very close friendships and a larger number of casual friendships. In this case, quality is more important than quantity. Relationships take time, effort, energy, and resources, so it makes sense that any individual person would experience a “satiation point” after their belongingness needs are fulfilled. In addition, when a bond is broken, people will readily pursue another in its place. This is not to say that one person is as good as the next, but people are resilient and in the aftermath of a painful loss or separation, new relationships are formed.

 ( I can relate a lot to above, in that it being next to impossible to be taken as a wife/partner by a heterosexual man,I resorted to             having sex with as many heterosexual men I could find, and having sex with them as often as possible, individually or in groups)

Innateness, universality, and evolutionary perspectives – People throughout the world are born with the ability and motivation to form close relationships, and this universal tendency is adaptive. Children who form close emotional attachments to their parents are less likely to wander off, get picked off by a predator, or fall victim to some other natural danger. Thus, relationships protect us from harm when we are young and vulnerable.


     I completely understand how hard it is to Accept  " Trans " type people

At least people at the above site are trying ↑ ; 

At about 3:00 in video , Richard Dawkins talks about my " idea " that the female-roled male, was trusted with the women and children,

thus could be left with them for protective reasons. At least he tries to understand / accept.

 As well as Transsexualism/homosexuality people maybe predisposed for the condition, and under right circumstances, a sexual role change / conflict occurs, then like in my case, once my male friends were sexually treating me like a female, addressing me as their
" girly-boyfriend " , then especially started to penetrate me anally and ejaculate up inside me, they " emasculated me " through a type of good trauma , as I very much liked they where doing it to me, yet at same time there was a huge psychological impact !

Like in " Terrace " Michael as a Fem-male , is a trusted constant companion of his Wife . Jodi, what husband wouldn't want his attractive wife to have a " Trusted constant companion ", to help her, protect her etc. ?

                                                                                   " This is called Adapting ! "

                                             And my problem with most religions, they can't seem to adapt well at all

                                                      And humans have only survived ,due their ability to adapt well.