All this  S t r e s s


                      Stress by Nature or Stress by Society, which is it ?

                       Or is it Ourselves ?                                                  

Dr. Albert Bandura, an influential social psychologist, coined the term "self-efficacy" to describe people's internal beliefs about their ability to have an impact on events that affect their lives. Your self-efficacy is your belief in your own effectiveness as a person, both generally in terms of managing your life, and specifically with regard to competently dealing with individual tasks. In the context of stress, self-efficacy describes your beliefs about your ability to handle stressful situations.

excerpt from " Stress: a social issue ;

                                                               "Our ancestors used to say that “work is health,” but we now realize that this way of thinking is not so true anymore. These days, society and the workplace put an unparalleled level of pressure on people. The signs of stress are omnipresent, and its consequences are numerous. The stress that we experience every day is essentially caused by several phenomena that are inherent to today’s society, including, among others:


  • intensified workload to increase productivity gains;
  • constant search for perfection;
  • obsession with competition;
  • difficulty balancing work, personal life and family life;
  • major changes in values and social standards.

Stress touches all social groups and all age categories; no one can truly escape it. However, some people are more deeply affected by its consequences, depending on their personal, psychosocial, professional and health background.

Research reveals that environments can increase or reduce our stress, which in turn impacts our bodies. What you are seeing, hearing, experiencing at any moment is changing not only your mood, but how your nervous, endocrine, and immune systems are working.

The stress of an unpleasant environment can cause you to feel anxious, or sad, or helpless. This in turn elevates your blood pressure, heart rate, and muscle tension and suppresses your immune system. A pleasing environment reverses that.

And regardless of age or culture, humans find nature pleasing. In one study cited in the book Healing Gardens, researchers found that more than two-thirds of people choose a natural setting to retreat to when stressed.  


When considering the actual living conditions of present day civilised humanity from the standpoint of even the most elementary religious commands, one is bound to experience a feeling of deep and painful disappointment at what one sees. For while religion prescribes brotherly love in the relations among the individuals and groups, the actual spectacle more resembles a battlefield than an orchestra. Everywhere, in economic as well as in political life, the guiding principle is one of ruthless striving for success at the expense of one's fellow men. This competitive spirit prevails even in the school and, destroying all feelings of human fraternity and cooperation, conceives of achievement not as derived from the love for productive and thoughtful work, but as springing from personal ambition and fear of rejection.
There are pessimists who hold that such a state of affairs is necessarily inherent in human nature; it is those who propound such views that are the enemies of true religion, for they imply thereby that the religious teachings are utopian ideals and are unsuited to afford guidance in human affairs. (Albert Einstein, 1948)

                                                      If you take a Look ,it don't take long before Life gets real tough!

Though the following video isn't center / focused  around stress, it has some interesting agendas and is on Stress.org site

2017 Stress Statistics

Statistic Verification
Source: American Psychological Association
Research Date: 2017
Most Common Sources of Stress
Percentage Source
63% Future of our nation
62% Money
61% Work
57% Political climate
51% Violence/crime

2014 Stress Statistics

Statistic Verification
Source: American Psychological Association, American Institute of Stress
Research Date: 7.8.2014
Top Causes of Stress in the U.S.
Cause Factors
Job Pressure Co-Worker Tension, Bosses, Work Overload
Money Loss of Job, Reduced Retirement, Medical Expenses
Health Health Crisis, Terminal or Chronic Illness
Relationships Divorce, Death of Spouse, Arguments with Friends, Loneliness
Poor Nutrition Inadequate Nutrition, Caffeine, Processed Foods, Refined Sugars
Media Overload Television, Radio, Internet, E-Mail, Social Networking
Sleep Deprivation Inability to release adrenaline and other stress hormones

U.S Stress Statistics Data
Percent of people who regularly experience physical symptoms caused by stress 77 %
Regularly experience psychological symptoms caused by stress 73 %
Feel they are living with extreme stress 33 %
Feel their stress has increased over the past five years 48 %
Cited money and work as the leading cause of their stress 76 %
Reported lying awake at night due to stress 48 %
Stress Impact Statistics
Percent who say stress has a negative impact on their personal and professional life 48 %
Employed adults who say they have difficulty managing work and family responsibilities. 31 %
Percent who cited jobs interfering with their family or personal time as a significant source of stress. 35 %
Perccent who said stress has caused them to fight with people close to them 54 %
Reported being alienated from a friend or family member because of stress 26 %
Annual costs to employers in stress related health care and missed work. $300 Billion
Percent who say they are “always” or “often” under stress at work 30 %
People who cited physical symptoms experienced the following
Fatigue 51 %
Headache 44 %
Upset stomach 34 %
Muscle tension 30 %
Change in appetite 23 %
Teeth grinding 17 %
Change in sex drive 15 %
Feeling dizzy 13 %
People who cited psychological symptoms experienced the following
Irritability or anger 50 %
Feeling nervous 45 %
Lack of energy 45 %
Feeling as though you could cry 35 %

 from Stress.org  / Daily-Life

                                                                                 The Inner Critic / Super Ego

       In order to move to a place of compassion we each must dissolve the internal psychological                                         structure known as the inner critic or superego.elizabethbader.com

The inner critic or "critical inner voice" is a concept used in popular psychology and psychotherapy to refer to a subpersonality that judges and demeans a person.[1]

A concept similar in many ways to the Freudian superego as inhibiting censor,[2] or the negative Jungian animus,[3] the inner critic is usually experienced as an inner voice attacking a person, saying that he or she is bad, wrong, inadequate, worthless, guilty, and so on.

(3) Jungian-animus  "There are, indeed, not a few people who are well aware that they possess a sort of inner critic or judge who immediately comments on everything they say or do. Insane people hear this voice directly as auditory hallucinations. But normal people too, if their inner life is fairly well developed, are able to reproduce this inaudible voice without difficulty, though as it is notoriously irritating and refactory it is almost always repressed.

Characteristics -from wikipedia

The inner critic often produces feelings of shame, deficiency, low self-esteem, and depression.[4][page needed] It may also cause self-doubt and undermine self-confidence. It is common for people to have a harsh inner critic that is debilitating.[citation needed]

Neville Symington suggested that such a severely critical inner object is especially noticeable in narcissism.[5][page needed]

Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss have labeled seven types of inner critics—the perfectionist, the taskmaster, the inner controller, the guilt tripper, the destroyer, the underminer, and the molder.[6]

excerpt from above site IFS ; 


  "Jeanette had low self esteem, all her teachers wondered about this. She was musically talented, but had no confidence in herself. She never tried out for the orchestra or school plays. As she got older, this pattern continued and she ended up with minimal jobs. She just assumed that she wouldn’t amount to anything. Every time she had an inclination to reach out and try something, she got a sinking feeling in her chest and gave up on the idea. She didn’t believe she was worth anything or could amount to anything.

One day a friend was talking about this critical voice the friend had inside her. She was having a very bad day with it! Something clicked inside Jeanette as she realized that she knew the voice her friend was describing.  It lived inside her, too!  It was saying things to her like, “You aren’t any good. You can’t do it. Don’t even try.” She had always just assumed that this was the truth about her. She had never seen it as a separate part of her that was giving her these harmful messages. She remembered how a part of her would want to try out for a play but this voice spoke so forcefully that she didn’t."

             Believe me, Due to my gender conflict, this is a constant battle (a life-time) , yet it is defining also of ; 
                                         " Cognitive Dissonance, gender-dysphoria, list goes on. 

At the point in the video above " Why zebras don't get ulcers" ( 1:27:40 ), one can see better the " Need for Roots " , why the purple stage is so relevant yet needs to encompass a larger tribe (society at large), why unity and anonymity have to be carefully orchestrated.

                                                 What is the flood of online information doing to us? - Robert Sapolsky /vimeo