I do know that until I completely accepted the Fact that I am a Female -roled- male transsexual person, then embrace it, did I have the ability to beat my " Life long Depression, then my Alcoholism ". Once I at least knew where my Cognitive Dissonance developed in my mind, then I knew the root of my problem.
Even though at age having sex with a Female for first time, sure it was pleasing / nice, yet some didn't seem right, yet society says this was the male role, so I tried to accept it for 18 years until I finally meet a man whom seen I was Feminine inside, and the sexually then began to treat me " lady-like ", and once I had his penis up inside me, I knew my role, knew it was 100% true, even he would say to me often " Michael, you very much should have been a Female "..which I loved hearing.
Yet learning to be a Transsexual in a World where it is not " Normal " , and having thus having no real guidance of what it is to be ; " Normally Transsexual ", also created another dilemma.
I love this video above, as Like her, we are both struggling to be in our " Roles "→ be Feminine
"Only thing she could of done to improve might be " Flower in her hair "
I made video above ↑ in 2000, at this time I had taken the role of Fem-male completely, I was having sex with men as often as possible,daily ,with as many men available whom met my liking, I fully realized I had no desire to be in male role,
excerpts from above article ; "In other words, it’s not that transgendered individuals think they are a different gender than they actually are. It’s that they’ve had the profoundly crappy luck to be stuck with bodies that are a different gender from who they actually are"
" Automatic categorization by gender is deeply ingrained. This was shown subtly in a study. In the first part of the study, subjects are shown a series of photos of guys in basketball jerseys, each paired with a sentence, such as “You were the ones that started the fight.” Half of the players are white and half are black; all are dressed the same. Afterward, subjects are asked to match the player with his particular remark. When subjects pick the wrong player, there’s a greater than 50 percent chance the misidentified player will be of the same race as the person who uttered the sentence. That tells us our minds make automatic categorizations by race. As subjects search to remember who made a particular remark, they’re not thinking, “Hmm, I’m not sure, it was definitely one of the guys with square shoulders, but which one?” They’re thinking, “Not sure, but it was definitely one of the [whichever race] guys.”
" There are many advantages to thinking categorically. It’s easier to remember things that have been categorically labeled, and easier to manipulate, organize, and make executive decisions about information that is categorically digital rather than on an analog continuum. For a traditional hunter-gatherer, a beneficial automatic categorization would probably have been “animals that I do/don’t have to run away from ASAP.” An example from our Westernized lives is so ingrained it’s hard to appreciate: “Red means stop and green means go.” If we were in a foreign country whose red lights were a different shade than our own, that sure wouldn’t make us hesitate about stopping at a busy intersection."
- .Robert Sapolsky
I thought the person in above video is honest / and helpful in many ways
For myself , I see my self 100% sexually female and psychologically, yet with no real desire to appear Female (only when nude), then with small breasts and not to have a penis,thus at least a vulvoplasty (a vagina )..but publicly I dont wish to appear / pass as Female.
Because I feel sexually female, naturally I desire a Straight male and his penis, yet if I did meet a female ,we became very close, I could be with her in a non-male role ,in essense a Lesbian role , for example my psychology / beliefs no longer allows me to get erect in order for me to use my penis as a male. No matter who some is, I can not , will not use my penis for sex .Don't even want anyone to touch it in a sexual fashion, this would very much under-mine my identity as sexually female.
For example , I can still ejaculate,have a orgasm, yet if I met a man today, we decided to have sex, thus say he is boning me, which in the photo/gif above, I am imitating being boned, I would climax tiny and limp, even if I wish to masturbate, I ejaculate tiny and limp.
I have for a long time wondered why there are not more Studies on Fantasy, as it is a huge part of everyday human life.
If I could find right man, would love to start having real sex again
I know I have become much more empathetic for transgender persons whom desire to " Pass " as female, the hardship of it, like myself knowing that most likely you'll never likely be able to fully be as you feel you should, and finding a self-image that hopefully will be satisfying at least. Where in my case I have never had a great desire to fully pass as Female, my desire mainly to appear publicly more Feminine, yet nude for myself and posing nude for artists I do desire to appear transsexual (Male to Female) and as well with a sexual partner.And of Coarse, I naturally desire to look as that on the right ↑
It would be great if in future a " Transfeminine " person like myself might be able to go out in public looking like myself in above video
Definition of Stigmatization
We will be considering the self-esteem of individuals who are members of a stigmatized or oppressed social category. By this, we mean social categories about which others hold negative attitudes, stereotypes, and beliefs, or which, on average, receive disproportionately poor interpersonal or economic outcomes relative to members of the society at large because of discrimination against members of the social category. Thus, our analysis applies to individuals who by virtue of their membership in a social category are vulnerable to being labeled as deviant, are targets of prejudice or victims of discrimination, or have negative economic or interpersonal outcomes. It is useful to distinguish between a stigmatized group and an outgroup. A stigmatized group is an outgroup relative to the dominant group in a culture or society, whereas an outgroup is defined by reference to any particular ingroup, regardless of which group holds the dominant position in the social hierarchy. Although some of the dynamics of interaction between stigmatized and nonstigmatized individuals are generally characteristic of ingroup-outgroup relations, stigmatized groups are devalued no t only by specific ingroups but by the broader society or culture.
A lot of good research papers on minority stress site above.
" Think mainly , The great desire to be; Anatomically correct for my Female Role, is a fact of life that can't be corrected.
Followed by societies unability to accept transsexual /third-gender people, and the problems this causes for;
finding and having a long term relationship
"For me it was always very important , for me never to be erect when in presents of a man whom I was having sex with."
I spent a lot of time just getting quick lunch break "bonings"
For me to be physically "emasculated" by having a vulva instead of a penis, would help with my own self image of being ,
very psychologically female like, and also help take the homosexual stigma away, as I desire heterosexual males to mate with.
And silly it may sound, my biggest desire it to be " impregnated " accept their semen up inside me.It was important that they be able to not use a condom, and be able to fully ejaculate up in me. Even if they ejaculated in my mouth,it was important I swallow it all so as to make them feel good, and a symbolic gesture of myself being fully femininized by their actions,as well as a thank you for the Attention they just gave me. Once he and I established this routine, he knew he could have me as often as he wished, that time allowed. Often he might introduce me to friend whom would have me for a "Fem-male " as well. My goal from 1998-2005,was very much to have a cock in my mouth and/or bottom at least once a day, every day, the more the better.
I do know with almost certainty, if the Role of Fem-male,ladyboy,berdache, were accepted in U.S. in 1975, when I first was having sex as a girly-boyfriend, 1, I likely would have never selected to have sex with a female. 2. I would of dressed a lot more like a girl. 3. Very much I would of kept having sex with males and Only in Female role, 4. Would of had the vulvoplasty surgery to remove my penis.
All my Men , clearly knew I wanted to feel lady-like, as I'd clearly state to them;
"Please make me feel like a Lady, please "impregnate" me "
In Japan, pederastic relationships were known as wakashudo ("the way of the young"), or shudo. Such relationships often occurred in Buddhist monasteries and among the Samurai class.
"Breaking the Male Mindset"
Even though I wanted so much to be fully emasculated into the " Female Role " sexually;
in a way I was like a " Wild horse " which needed to be " Broken "
1995 images of me
It's so difficult to explain, as it was so difficult to realize how much I was enculturated into thinking ;
" I was suppose to be in the Male role sexually !, yet that seemed so wrong "
Yet when I stood back , then realized I never thought about wanting to;
to dream to have sex with a female, it was simply what men do!, cause it felt physically good"
" But I thought, had always thought about wanting a Man to treat me sexually like a lady"
" My whole life I wanted to be a Man's girly-boyfriend, dreaming all the time of having a man's penis up in me"
" Well I want to be a Man's girly-boyfriend , not because it feels physically good, because it feels right in my heart and mind "
Even after 1998, after I'd been in "Female role" with men, I battled being " Fully Emasculated "
It took me awhile to realize, yes I was trying to attract men to me ,and treat me sexually
like a female, I was also still projecting my " Male erection ", this " Had to Go! "
I had to surrender and accept reality or forever remain in a severe state of "Cognitive Dissonance"
I had to in Essense ; " Un-Learn " being or trying to be sexually like a Male
I love this movie " Horse Whisperer ", as it is as Much about the psychology of Pilgrim(horse) as anything, and the ;
Great " Cognitive Dissonance " Pilgrim holds in his mind, so much so, it has turned to inability to trust, and pure anger.
Pilgrim in a way must be hobbled, be shown " trust " Grace again.
(must see whole movie to fully understand)
But hobbling isn’t only helpful for keeping your horse close when you’re out of places to tie him up. It teaches him countless other things. It teaches him how to yield to pressure, and might save his legs if he were to get caught in a fence. It teaches them patience. It teaches them to think things through. It makes a big change in your horse if done right.
It was for me like a Huge Process of Deprogramming
Deprogrammer Carol Giambalvo writes in the 1998 text "Deprogramming to Thought Reform Consultation":
It was believed that the hold of the brainwashing over the cognitive processes of a cult member needed to be broken – or "snapped" as some termed it .
For myself , like a bucking bronco, I needed alot of Men to " Mount me " ejaculate in me, break me into a totally " Female role "
Which I very Much needed to be!, and Wanted to be, " Fully Female roled "
Sure, Now I know I am, 100% fully emasculated psychologically "female" sexually, yet it was a battle to break myself of ;
" I should be a male sexually , because I look like a male "
Yet I very much did not wish to be Male, at least sexually