Once I started posing with "pink rose" in my hair,it helped a lot with my need to feel feminine, yet for some time, I have wondered why females of today, don't wear flowers in their hair on a daily basis, as it is a very simple "gesture" saying " I am feminine", instead of all this makeup,high-heels stuff ?
As a transsexual type, (a male whom is psychological female ), I see it as only natural to very much desire to be feminine appearing, at least in a way that one can achive by their own means, sure if I had the means I likely would of had a vaginoplasty,breasts implants many years ago, yet " means " is a large complex frame work etc.Thus some thing so simply as putting a " Flower " in one's hair is so defining as " Feminine " , yet I can't remember the last time any where seeing a Female with a flower in her hair...…..Why is that ?
Personal ,I wish modern females, would see how wearing High-heels is very much a social construct,and makes no sense at all,rather silly.
Just because a female has a female body doesn't mean she is "Feminine, any more then a male with body of a male, each must learn to be which fits them by maturity, say a male builds his body to appear muscular / strong, this doesn't mean he is mature, any more then a female whom tries to appear feminine by means of make-up,clothes etc.
Maturity is the basis for Self-Actualizing, much we all need to pursue, the most Masculine or most Feminine are those whom are the most Mature, my opinion.
Some Meanings Of Popular Hair Flowers:
Camellia - Gratitude
Daisy - Innocence and purity
Gardenia - Secret love
Ginger - Strength
Hibiscus - Delicate beauty, sensitivity
Jasmine - Sensuality
Lily Of The Valley- Return of happiness
Apricot rose - Desire, admiration, modesty
Pink rose - Admiration, happiness
Red rose - Passion, love
White rose - Purity, secrecy, spiritual love
Tuberose - Forbidden pleasures
Ideally and reality, become quite the paradox for myself here, as the picture above represents the wish Not to have a penis, I already can wear fake breasts, even if I really was female, I'd be very Tom-boy like, so no need to change my hair , Ultimately, to my psyhic, though," I would truly be Fem-male and could no longer even be identified as male,nore be in male role sexually- my desire
♥ I myself being in the "Female role sexually", since 1997, and very adapted to be penetrated in my bottom (keeping clean,etc), I don't believe it would really matter if a surgically constructed vagina was sensitive,etc ?
♥ Also publicly I could dress as male, I have never had a desire to appear female, only the desire to project that I am "Fem-male"
which maybe different for many transgender types,it seems
♥ I do know I love cock, just not on me, yet I love pegged by females too ! and performing "cunnilingus"
So many times I have wondered " if my first contact would not occurred, would I still feel "Fem-male", and it does no good, I just am, many events,environment,timing etc, I ultimately pushed me into my identity.
Yet in today's Reality, I can put flowers in my hair in the woods,as they don't mind there,wear my fake boobies,and just be content there.However if 3o again, I might just try to look like the photos above.
Finding a Mate a sexual partner
I think it shouldn't take the average person very long,and if they engage their "empathy " mind, to see that being transgender has some unique difficulties in finding a person to mate with, appearance, mannerism, at least prior to speaking , start the way most likely, at least at the store, out in public.
♥ I'd say I met a lot of my men through blind-dating type function, word of mouth.
♥ for myself ,what at time is frustrating is , I'll be some where, store,etc. see a black guy I find attractive, which sets my mind in motion→ " how can I get his attention ", " what can I say if I just go up and strike up a conversation ", "How can I present myself as "Feminine".
♥ If do get a chance, to talk with him, how can I as quickly as possible convey my interest in him, convey that I am....; " female roled sexually"
The majority of the transgender erotic fantasies I have read are anchored in the dream of being affirmed as your target gender romantically and sexually. Most of them are pretty traditional in this respect, and very much "vanilla", to put it that way.
Fantasies about being desired, validated, loved, and bonded to a partner are common among both women and men – and in part, that's because the need to belong is not something that's specific to one gender.
Breaking gender norms
As I see it, male to female crossdreamers who fantasize about having sex as women, are not necessarily breaking traditional gender norms. The extent they do so, depends on what gender they identify with in the first place. Some male to female crossdreamers identify as men, others as women, and some as something in between.
But it could be that this distinction is purely academic, as it turns out that "gender bending" fantasies are found among many different people.
♥ " I would say my number one fantasy might be ";
I am with 3 female friends, doing some painting, we are all working to get the inside of a house painted, which one of them just bought. They all knew I was Fem, and currently looking for "Cock"..:)
Tracy a friend of everyone stops by, with her boyfriend whom happens to be a very sexy black man , which they all know I droll over every time I see him, when he walks in ,one of the girls jokingly says " keep him away from Michael ",,..Tracy then says " why is that? " then one says " he is horny",,without a second thought ,Tracy says to her boyfriend " If we all can watch, will you let Michael suck your big black cock ? ",,then she looks at me and says " That is if you might like too?"...I looking downward, shy,meek like I said " I have always wanted to ", Tracy's boyfriend.(Todd).also taken by shock, replied " If it is ok with everybody here "..The silly girls are jumping up and down ,clapping all saying " Yes,Yes ! ", Todd walks over to couch,sits,,Tracy grabbing my hand, assuring me, says "enjoy", I walked over get on me knees ,and begin unzipping his jeans, to discover, I can tell he is growing erect, unbuttoning his jeans ,his beautiful black cock is revealed to us all, I waste no time, and lick the big head,the sweet pre-cum,and swallow it.deep throating all 8" of him, the girls all mutter "Wow,go for it Michael "..I follow their command, after not to long ,Todd is squirming,moaning,,then moans out "Michael I going cum! " , I slowly let him slide out of my mouth,holding his cock shaft,stroking it firmly, holding the big cock head to my open lips just in time for the first big squirt cum to splash onto my tongue,squirt after came,,the girls seeing it all,,til finally Todd got still and and layed back onto couch, I swallowed it all, turn to the girls and said "Thanks for allowing me to do this, and kissed Todd on cheek, and said especially thank you,,and any time you want me to do that again "ASK! ".- yummy..:)
I like this Brave Person and can relate to them
The thing is, a woman can feel attracted to a man’s appearance, but if it was the most important thing to women, the porn industry would have grown and exploded because of women wanting to look at naked men. Women would have been buying magazines with naked men and then masturbating to that.
…but, that’s just not how it works.
My Role models have always been Women
If I could pick a Role Model (whom I would like to be like) ,as well as simply to have as a friend, from celebrities ,,Jodi Foster would be the one
Self-enhancement is a type of motivation that works to make people feel good about themselves and to maintain self-esteem. This motive becomes especially prominent in situations of threat, failure or blows to one's self-esteem. Self-enhancement involves a preference for positive over negative self-views. It is one of the four self-evaluation motives along with self-assessment (the drive for an accurate self-concept), self-verification (the drive for a self-concept congruent with one's identity) and self-improvement (the act of bettering one's self-concept). Self-evaluation motives drive the process of self-regulation, that is, how people control and direct their own actions.
The presence of the motive to self-enhance is dependent on many social situations, and the relationships shared with the people in them. Many different materialisations of self-enhancement can occur depending on such social contexts:
|Westerners typically...||Easterners typically...|
|Prioritise intradependence||Prioritise interdependence|
|Place greater importance on individualistic values||Place greater importance on collectivistic values|
|Have more inflated ratings of their own merits||Have less inflated ratings of their own merits|
|Emphasise internal attributes||Emphasise relational attributes|
|Show self-enhancement that overshadows self-criticism||Show self-criticism that overshadows self-enhancement|
|Give spontaneously more positive self-descriptions||Give spontaneously more negative self-descriptions|
|Make fewer self-deprecatory social comparisons||Make more self-deprecatory social comparisons|
|Hold more unrealistically optimistic views of the future||Hold fewer unrealistically optimistic views of the future|
|Display a self-serving attributional bias||Do not display a self-serving attributional bias|
|Show a weak desire to self-improve via self-criticism||Show a strong desire to self-improve via self-criticism|
|Are eager to conclude better performance than a classmate||Are reluctant to conclude better performance than a classmate|
|Reflexively discount negative feedback||Readily acknowledge negative feedback|
|Persist more after initial success||Persist more after initial failure|
|Consider tasks in which they succeed to be most diagnostic||Consider tasks in which they fail to be most diagnostic|
|Self-enhance on the majority of personality dimensions||Self-enhance only on some personality dimensions|
|Self-enhance on individualistic attributes||Self-enhance on collectivist attributes|
"Indeed, decades of research confirm that we are all above average—at least in our own minds. When comparing ourselves versus other people, we tend to rate ourselves more highly on a host of positive measures, including intelligence, ambition, friendliness, and modesty (ha!). This finding is sometimes called the “self-enhancement” effect scientificamerican.com
there are many reasons it seems we " self enhance ", here as concerning " flowers in your hair " , it might be to get attention, and enhance one's defined "role "- clearly one can see I feel feminine, or at least conveying that need to, unless I was acting ,say as in theater, play,movie.
I do believe when I pose in woods, there has always been the element, desire that by chance I might stumble upon, a Real man, the kind of guy I desire, we flirt etc. and he takes me sexually in my Feminine role;" Though it is not something I think about while posing in woods "
Monumental Sculpture Inspired by Ballerina Celebrates the Strength of Cuban Women - mymodernmet.com
Anatomy of a Drone Porn: ‘Drone Boning’ Makes Sex Look Like Art - thedailybeast.com
There are men who wish to become eunuchs in the classical definition. For them, removing the entire penis and testicles can be a remarkably fulfilling, relieving experience, even though they may still identify as male and use male pronouns. In their online enclaves, such people sometimes identify as "eunuchs," "nullos," or "smoothies." In the medical literature, they are referred to as male-to-eunuchs, suffering from their own unique form of gender dysphoria.
Eunuchs are a secretive subculture. "According to one survey of voluntarily castrated males who identified themselves as eunuchs, only 30 percent and 11 percent had divulged this fact to close friends and family, respectively," Johnson and Irwig's study reads. Many eunuchs seem to identify as male, but others, as Crane indicated, find their identities to be less clearly defined. The study notes that "after castration, less than one-third of eunuchs continue to consider themselves as male, most consider themselves to be nether male nor female, and a few identify themselves as female."
Today, Crane says, it is possible to completely remove both the entire penis and the testicles/scrotum, while rerouting the urethra down to an individual's perineum. Afterwards, patients should be taking hormone supplements. "It's not good to have no sex hormones. You get depressed; you get osteoporosis; you have no sex drive. You need either estrogen or testosterone." Most of Crane's patients begin taking a regimen of testosterone injections after their penis and testicles has been severed.
To some critics, the idea of removing an organ responsible for the primary production of testosterone in the male body, only to begin taking testosterone supplements, is illogical. However, Crane says that this is simply a misunderstanding of who these patients are, and what they need. "They don't identify with that body part—it's not that they want to have osteoporosis and be depressed. Fortunately there's a way to remove that body part and still fulfill the [body's necessary hormonal] function." - broadly.vice.com
I feel after the fact that I have been Celibate (no sexual-partners ) for 14 years now, I could remain celibate the rest of my life, yet the need/desire to be Fem-male, lady-like, thus to plan to talk to Doctors soon about possibility of Vulvoplasty.
Whether I stay celibate or try to find a " Man " or Men for actual sex, I strongly wish to appear as above.
I put this video here because First off internal/psychologically I am very much more female like then male, 2nd I do want a Straight male to want to date me as if I am very much Female like psychologically, even though I appear male, or that I am a male whom feels he should be Female, who knows how it exactly happened I ended up this way....Just Did !
Ten Reasons Why Women Love Romance Novels
10. We’re bored and have nothing better to do. This explains why a good portion of us read in lines, just before the lights go off in a theater, between meetings, before class, and during our commute… because we have time to spare.
09. We don’t have to think when we read romance! Great! Let’s leave our brains at home because everybody knows romance novels are right up there with gossip, soap operas, and fashion and celebrity magazines.
08. Secretly, we love the trashy cover art. Clinches and clutches and heaving bosoms really appeal to us. Who doesn’t love toting embarrassingly bulging mantitty in her purse?
07. We love romance because it’s petticoat porn. (What and men don’t like watching poorly filmed flicks off the internet? At least ours is intellectual- it’s literature!)
06. Better yet, on top of loving it for porn we also love it because we have no sex life. This is our only way to experience sex… ie vicariously through fictional characters. Right… as if any woman couldn’t go into any bar and ask any man if he wanted to go home with her and he wouldn’t say yes.
Now for 5 real reasons to love romance novels:
05. Truly, we love romance because it’s emotional porn. Two hanky reads anyone? Passes out tissues.
04. Happily Ever Afters. We love a great ending and knowing that no matter how many troubles and problems seem to mount up eventually they’re solved and go away.
03. Variety. There’s a romance out there for everyone. Many of us develop preferences and seek out stories that cater to them.
02. The heroine. She’s everything we want to be or admire in others with the exception of the Too Stupid to Live Heroines.
And the number one reason women love romance novels is:
01. The hero… because we can fall a little bit in love with him every time we open a book to read.
I use to read my mom's romance novels often, always wanting / imagining to be the - Girl -
Just as with any erotic movie ,etc, I always have wanted to be the female
This view requires learning to think in "plurals" -- imagining the multiple histories and cultural stories of human societies in every part of the world as parallel, equal developments intersecting without necessarily merging, and associating non-Western societies such as Zuni with the future of the planet instead of its past. - I love this statement
There is an old joke that the typical Zuni household consists of a mother, father, children, and an anthropologist. In fact, the Zunis are one of the most written-about tribes in the world. . . . It was with genuine disappointment, then, that I came to realize how often the impact of these outsiders on the objects of their fascination has been disruptive and detrimental. Despite their admiration of the Pueblos, early anthropologists more often bolstered the image of the vanishing Indian than challenged it. . . .
Early observers were convinced that the cause of science and the immenent disappearance of tribal cultures justified their actions. . . . Such predictions enact what James Clifford has termed the redemptive allegory of anthropology -- the assumption that the "primitive" cultures are doomed to disappear except for those artifacts "rescued" by Western scientists. Such predictions are not only self-serving -- since they inflate the importance of the fieldworkers's reports -- they can also be self-fulfilling. They sustain and foster the idea of Indians as a vanishing race by referring only to their past.
The alternative view, however, challenges many comfortable assumptions: that there are neither primitive nor civilized, inferior nor superior, simple nor advanced societies -- only different ones. This view requires learning to think in "plurals" -- imagining the multiple histories and cultural stories of human societies in every part of the world as parallel, equal developments intersecting without necessarily merging, and associating non-Western societies such as Zuni with the future of the planet instead of its past. We must question the assumption that change means the loss of something essential and find ways to discuss cultural differences without encasing them in value-ladened descriptions.
Since as long as I remember, my desire has been to only be in the " Female role , as far as sexually "
I think it is great the person below can pass as female, yet many transgender people can't, thus it is important the public sees the people whom don't wish to pass as female, in their own context..mine say as the Berdache type.
The Wiring in my brained just got criss-crossed most likely part biologically,and partly due to psychological trauma around age of 6. Least wanted to like the "girls" since.