How can we over come Pre-Concieved Notions

First un-label ,forget certainties as though what your observing you have never seen before,heard of → it is all "New", this is why drawing as meditation is so important, it takes us to the "right side of brain",where Logic,Labels,titles.religions,beliefs, must be quieted,hushed,muzzled !

® One thing we must be aware of: Every written word,Every handed down story, to a degree is Hearsay.
® Other than "Nature" it's self, there is no 100% certainities that Humanity currently or ever has been able to mental construct, other then each beings innate-(in·nate (ĭ-nāt′, ĭn′āt′) adj. 1. a. Existing naturally or by heredity rather than being learned through experience) need to form and survive.

Think of Pre-Concieved Notions as the Recyle Bin on your computer,Each day look at the thoughts,the dogmas(beliefs),in your mind.If they hinder your Growth toward being a better person,..get rid them by plurging out of your mind,as one sends trash to the Recyle bin. Get rid of these false beliefs,or growth will not occur,..simply true

1.Self aware-ness

2. Accepting ourselves(being able to),thus by being able to accept ourselves,,we become soul searching, we must become open-minded, thus by becoming open-minded, we learn to accept others and all reality as all are as well

3.Over coming the Idea of,.."Imagining what you think others might think, examples: " I imagine what others might think of me as being "Fem-male "so I have pre-conceived what another may or may not think.."thus I must ask/tell my self, first "I can't control what another thinks"

Knowing What "Pre-Concieved Notions" are First "one can not change anything,unless one knows what one is changing"

To truly accept others as themselves, first we must ourselves as ourselves

       "Carl Jung exhibited the sort of serene wisdom that is usually reserved for the reclusive-hermit-sage. Yet, he arrived at his personal “wholeness” not through the traditional route of Christian grace or Buddhist meditation, but through scientific and psychological means. Delving into his own troubled mind and reflecting on the neuroses of his patients, he arrived at an unsettling insight."

               1.We must learn to accept our own darkness if we want to overcome our own neurosis.

               2. He would not condemn the things in others and would therefore not be lead into those thoughts, feelings, and acts of violence towards others which are always characteristic of the people who project the devil in themselves upon the outside – upon somebody else – upon the scapegoat.

In a lecture delivered to Swiss clergymen, Carl Jung shared some of his deepest insights on this topic.

Alan Watts believes this was the greatest thing Carl Jung ever wrote:


People forget that even doctors have moral scruples, and that certain patient’s confessions are hard even for a doctor to swallow. Yet the patient does not feel himself accepted unless the very worst in him is accepted too.

No one can bring this about by mere words; it comes only through reflection and through the doctor’s attitude towards himself and his own dark side. If the doctor wants to guide another, or even accompany him a step of the way, he must feel with that person’s psyche. He never feels it when he passes judgment. Whether he puts his judgments into words or keeps them to himself makes not the slightest difference.

To take the opposite position and to agree with the patient offhand is also of no use but estranges him as much as condemnation. Feeling comes only through unprejudiced objectivity. This sounds almost like a scientific precept, and it could be confused with a purely intellectual, abstract attitude of mind. But what I mean is something quite different.

It is a human quality, a kind of deep respect for the facts, for the man who suffers from them, and for the riddle of such a man’s life. The truly religious person has this attitude. He knows that God has brought all sorts of strange and inconceivable things to pass and seeks in the most curious ways to enter a man’s heart. He therefore senses in everything the unseen presence of the divine will.

This is what I mean by “unprejudiced objectivity.” It is a moral achievement on the part of the doctor, who ought not to let himself be repelled by sickness and corruption. We cannot change anything unless we accept it.

Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses. I am the oppressor of the person I condemn, not his friend and fellow-sufferer. I do not in the least mean to say that we must never pass judgment when we desire to help and improve. But if the doctor wishes to help a human being he must be able to accept him as he is. And he can do this in reality only when he has already seen and accepted himself as he is.

Perhaps this sounds very simple, but simple things are always the most difficult. In actual life it requires the greatest art to be simple, and so acceptance of oneself is the essence of the moral problem and the acid test of one’s whole outlook on life.

That I feed the beggar, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy in the name of Christ, all these are undoubtedly great virtues. What I do unto the least o’ my brethren, that I do unto Christ.

But what if I should discover that the least amongst them all, the poorest of all beggars, the most impudent of all offenders, yeah, the very fiend himself, that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own kindness, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved. What then?

Then, as a rule, the whole truth of Christianity is reversed: there is then no more talk of love and long-suffering; we say to the brother within us “Raca,” and condemn and rage against ourselves. We hide him from the world, we deny ever having met this least among the lowly in ourselves, and had it been God himself who drew near to us in this despicable form, we should have denied him a thousand times before a single cock had crowed.

Anyone who uses modern psychology to look behind the scene not only of his patients’ lives, but more especially of his own life—and the modern psychotherapist must do this if he is not to be merely an unconscious fraud—will admit that to accept himself in all his wretchedness is the hardest of tasks, and one which it is almost impossible to fulfill.

The very thought can make us sweat with fear. We are therefore only too delighted to choose, without a moment’s hesitation, the complicated course of remaining in ignorance about ourselves while busying ourselves with other people and their troubles and sins. This activity lends us a perceptible air of virtue, by means of which we benevolently deceive ourselves and others. God be praised, we have escaped from ourselves at last!

There are countless people who can do this with impunity, but not everyone can, and these few break down on the road to their Damascus and succumb to a neurosis. How can I help these people if I myself am a fugitive, and perhaps also suffer from the morbus sacer of a neurosis? Only he who has fully accepted himself has “unprejudiced objectivity.”

It is only when you have seen and accepted your own capacity for fear, shame, and judgment that you can truly see the other for what she or he is. Without this acceptance we avoid parts of the other, simply because we are reminded of these in ourselves. And thus, no true connection, nor genuine compassion, can arise.

       Jung understood this deeply, and this is why Alan Watts said:


[Jung] was the sort of man who could feel anxious and afraid and guilty without being ashamed of feeling this way. In other words, he understood that an integrated person is not a person who has simply eliminated the sense of guilt or the sense of anxiety from his life – who is fearless and wooden and kind of sage of stone. He is a person who feels all these things, but has no recriminations against himself for feeling them."

     For myself personally-Michael Emery,"ME"...."Near the last 6 month's of my 2 years in Salvation Army's "ARC"..,my Counselor..handed me a written copy of "The Good Wolf and The Bad Wolf in us All " this had a profound effect on my ability to accept "Myself"


What happens in the psyche when we act as if some parts of us aren’t really ours? When we search for external reasons why we behave the way we do? When we want to hide certain parts from all the eyes of the world, including our own?

According to Jung, we end up with a personality that is split, or a more fitting term, “unwhole.”

Jung writes: 


         "Neurosis is an inner cleavage — the state of being at war with oneself. Everything that accentuates this cleavage makes the patient worse, and everything that mitigates it tends to heal him. What drives people to war with themselves is the suspicion or the knowledge that they consist of two persons in opposition to one another. The conflict may be between the sensual and the spiritual man, or between the ego and the shadow. It is what Faust means when he says: “Two souls, alas, dwell in my breast apart.” A neurosis is a splitting of personality."

          To heal a split in self, a person needs to work with their shadow and learn uncomfortable truths about themselves in the process. Our inner war is softened when we allow ourselves to be seen. Not just the side of ourselves that matches our intersubjective ideal — that is easy. We show those feathers prominently. No, we need to accept our failures and shortcomings too.


Jung concludes:

No doubt this also sounds very simple. In reality, however, the acceptance of the shadow-side of human nature verges on the impossible. Consider for a moment what it means to grant the right of existence to what is unreasonable, senseless, and evil!

          By accepting..one can now go onto change that "shadow" into what can be  accepted,..I personally don't like the use of the word "evil",,as it projects a religious belief,,and though I consider myself highly spiritual, it is not in the "Christian " sense, which I believe Jung might of been.
          Yet I can very much accept those whom are Christian,....yet they must accept that I have my own belief,it is mine and mine alone.  That is Only way Humanity can or will move beyond the 21st century with growth and least amount of decay (me)

     *"You're obliged to pretend respect for people and institutions you think absurd. You live attached in a cowardly fashion to moral and social conventions you despise, condemn, and know lack of all foundation. It is that permanent contradiction between your ideas and desires and all the dead formalities and vain pretenses of your civilization which makes you sad, troubled and unbalanced. In that intolerable conflict you lose all joy of life and all feeling of personality, because at every moment they suppress and restrain and check the free play of your powers. That's the poisoned and mortal wound of the civilized world.” 

Octave Mirbeau*


     A grandfather recites a plight to his grandson:

Grandfather: I have two wolves fighting in my heart. One wolf is the vengeful, angry, violent one. The other wolf is the loving, compassionate one. Grandson: Which wolf will win the fight in your heart, Grandfather?
Grandfather: The one that I feed.*

   "This is a good place to place my view on Christianity  " I spent a Life time surrounded by it,being taught only it,.thus instutionalized to it, I believe if Jesus truly existed,he would have first, never mentioned, the word Evil, nor a deity such as the Devil,(thus injecting fear to his teachings) I believe these are inventions of Mankind, inventions to be used as tools to manipulate others into following their point of view (just look at the two words .evil and devil..spelled backwards,"  Live and Lived ", seems ironic!,..I believe the" Idea of Jesus" in it's pure-form,un-manipulated by mankind, can be very growth promoting,  I can learn from and have,and much beauty can be found, but in it's pure-form,and prior to individuals or groups of!..taking a great idea...and adding their own decay-manipulations." (me)

      I try to look at the words "Good " and " Bad " now as  "Growth" and  " Decay "..and like a thought it can promote "growth", or that thought can promote "decay"..( if north represented "Good",..we want to keep our eye,thoughts on the compass to keep heading "North"
                           - me -

I agree with above,as long as whatever your doing is "Growth" and not "decay"

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