“The true value of a human being can be found in the degree to which he has attained liberation from the self.” - Albert Einstein
"A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.
- Albert Einstein
A man can do what he wants,yet can not will what he wants?.....I see this as Liberation of Self..if it can be achieved?...and to what degree?.....example of this maybe as simple as...."if I ask you,,what is your favorite color?,,you reply..green...I then ask you,..did you choose ...green to be your favorite color,,do you want it?
I currently am pondering the Idea,,that we have ......Two Self's....1,,True-Self,,,,2.....Society-Self or group-self
True-Self...is what we truly seek...and is Truth
Society-Self...is false self...the actor
A good...and fun habit.."everyday look at yourself in the mirror and ask"Who are you any way"?
The looking-glass self is a social psychological concept introduced and coined by Charles Horton Cooley in his work, Human Nature and the Social Order in 1902. The concept of the looking-glass self describes the development of one's self and of one's identity through one's interpersonal interactions within the context of society. As Cooley explains, society is an interweaving and inter-working of mental selves.
According to Lisa McIntyre’s The Practical Skeptic: Core Concepts in Sociology, the concept of the looking-glass self expresses the tendency for one to understand oneself through their the perception which others may hold of them.  Essentially, how one views oneself and acts heavily depends on what the individual believes other people thinks of the individual. This process is theorized to develop one's sense of identity. Therefore identity, or self, is the result of learning to see ourselves through what we perceive to be the perceptions of others. 
The looking-glass self comprises three main components that are unique to humans (Shaffer 2005). 
The result is that individuals will change their behavior based on what they feel other people think about them, even if not necessarily true. In this way, social interaction acts as a "mirror" or a "looking-glass," since one's sense of self and self esteem is built off of others. For example, an individual may walk into an job interview with confidence and attempt to display this confidence. A person in this situation most often examines the reactions of the interviewers to see if they are positively or negatively reacting to it. If the individual notices positive reactions, such as nodding heads or smiles, this might further develop the individual's sense of self-confidence. If the individual notices negative reactions, such as a lack of interest, this confidence in self often becomes shaken and reformed in order to better oneself, even if the perceived judgments were not necessarily true.
note-on negative reactions -I think this can be true of a person of low self-esteem, low self confidence, importantance of interview, for example I try to live by principle of ; " do onto others, as you wish done on to you ", so if the interviewer is showing lack of interest, I may ask them ; " is this a bad time to talk, or even just leave,and say I've made a mistake bothering you"-me
However to the degree I need the job, will sway my emotions, outlook, I have at this point for example " I might say " I really need this job, if you want to give me a chance, I will do my best ".. I am also going to be sizing this person up, at same time ,they are me, asking myself, such things as " do I even want to be around this person, and those he represents ?"
I think this Theory is very real, and remains with to varying degrees through many peoples lives, yet it also shows why it is so important that a youth is nutured by parents/society to develop a good self-concept, in a role they are best suited for, whatever that be, a Philosopher or a carpenter etc. not just left to chance, or banking model of education or ;
This trend toward ‘homogenized education,’ an attempt to make sure that everyone* learns the same thing in the same way, reminds me of many – mostly misguided – attempts to do something similar in business. If you’ve ever heard the term Business Process Engineering, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
To be sure, debate is brewing about whether some of the these higher-functioning children should be classified as autistic or even disabled. Some disability experts contend that the problems encountered in educating children with Asperger’s Disorder lie less with the individual child than with the educational system. The U.S. educational system, they suggest, has disseminated Asperger’s Disorder as a category because it is useful to its attempt to make the student body as homogeneous as possible. The paradox they identify is that a child who doesn’t fit in has to be seen as somehow impaired in order to justify an effort to normalize him.-gbrettmiller.com
The danger in cultural homogenization is that those who are capable of excellence are broken by the system. Rather than exalting excellence, the outstanding are told to sit down. Peer pressure them not to be different or “weird” so they abandon their gifts to fit in. Faux egalitarian ideologues, driven by sentimentality, offer equal prizes to all thereby ensuring that there are no longer such things as prizes at all. Those who gaze at the stars are accused of being stuck up while those gaze at movie stars are embraced as “one of us.” - theimaginativeconservative.org
Early intervention is also necessary in improving life chances. Save the Children is a non-governmental group that works in the best interest of children. They promote children's rights and the aid children in underdeveloped countries that need relief. The UK has started an early intervention program that aids in improving life chances early on a child's life. They believe that "No child should endure poverty and no child's life chances should be shaped by the accident of birth." This program was made to ensure that inequalities in children's learning are tackled before problems can occur and separate them from peers. In order to do so, this program gives parents in lower classes the expertise they need to effectively help their children's learning in a home environment so that they are well prepared when they enter school. An example would be improving the parents' reading level so that they are able to teach their children how to read and write before kindergarten. This allows children in lower classes to be near the same level as children who are in higher classes with higher educated parents. Early intervention will allow for children to start out their education on the right foot, with skills they will need to succeed and achieve a high level of education, thus improving life chances.
excerpt from ; mind-body ↑"Few people outside philosophy and mind-related fields are familiar with the phrase “mind-body problem,” with good reason. Experts make the problem seem dauntingly arcane and remote from everyday concerns. Some insist it is a pseudo-problem, which vanishes once you jettison archaic concepts like “the self” and “free will.” Actually, the mind-body problem is quite real, simple and urgent. We face it whenever we wonder who we really are, can be and should be."