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                 The " Berdache " as Role model- 8/17/2019

Just Imagine it is 1975, no internet, homosexual/gay was bad word, and here I am performing fellatio, and taking cock up my bottom,

                                                                      and wanting it constantly.

                                             I had no role model,the boy whom where boning me loved I was easy,

                                                        and their attention I loved, so didn't wish to stop

                                      Like any person going through Life,

            maturing we need some type of Role model that fits us as a Individual,

        Yet what Role model does a Third-gender,transsexual feeling individual have ?.


                            I personally began reading what I could find out about the traits of the 

                                          North American Native's berdache type individuals,


                                             And found the traits very similar to my own.

Until the 1990s, the word berdache was used in English-language anthropological and ethnographical literature to describe a widely divergent set of social statuses found in many Native American tribal cultures, but which have been largely incomprehensible to Eurocentric observers, who have attempted to describe berdachism as a combination of homosexuality and transvestism. In recent years, Native Americans and the people who study them have proposed the term two-spirit as a more appropriate label.
Berdache is not a Native American term. According to linguist Claude Courouve, the word derives from the Persian bardaj; via European contact with the Muslim world, the word spread by the early sixteenth century to Italian as bardasso, to Spanish as bardaxa or bardaje, and to French as bardache.

Berdache is a relatively recent Anglophonic corruption of this term, which was defined in seventeenth- and eighteenth-century French dictionaries as "a young man who is shamefully abused" or "a young man or boy who serves as another's succubus, permitting sodomy to be committed on him."

     Early Spanish and French explorers and colonizers in North America applied these terms as a means of making sense 
                                            of the relationships, anatomical sex, sexual behavior, and social gender role,
                             of those individuals they encountered who fell outside their own conceptual frameworks
Berdache
by Susan Stryker
Encyclopedia Copyright © 2015, glbtq, Inc


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 A Crow traditionalist says, "We don't waste people the way white society does. Every person has their gift ( 57)." According to the Mohave creation story, "Ever since the world began, there have been transvestites, and from the beginning of the world, it was meant that there should be homosexuals. (Roscoe, ed. 39)."


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 Childhood experiences of homosexual menfathersforlife.org

-MOTHERS AND SONS-


"Thompson found that "homosexuals more strongly identified with their mothers and more strongly disidentified with their fathers than with controls." (Thompson, 1973) According to Saghir and Robins' research:

The mother seems to replace the father as the parental model and source of identification. In the vast majority of the homosexual men, identification is reported to have occurred with the mother or with no parent at all during childhood. A majority of the homosexuals describe their mothers as having been dominant at home, making decisions, carrying out discipline and showing greater drive and involvement. (Saghir, p.152) 

-Fathers and Sons-

Homosexuality is a developmental problem that is almost always the result of problems in family relations, particularly between father and son. As a result of failure with father, the boy does not fully internalize male gender-identity, and develops homosexuality. This is the most commonly seen clinical model. - Joseph Nicolosi, Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality, 1991



            -  I very much relate , thus took females as role models, thus want to be in female sexual role -


                                                                     Dale's Web pages   - fathersforlife.org

Introduction

This material has been prepared for those who are interested in promoting the truth about homosexuality.  Think of it as talking points.  It may be used without attribution.  The more people who say the same thing, the better.  A few facts repeated over and over again can be more powerful than libraries of information.  We have only to consider how our opposition has succeeded by repeating the same lies over and over, until even our friends believe them.

Feel free to copy the contents of these pages in their entirety and share them with friends.  Don't hesitate to ask for more information.  The Irving Bieber Memorial Library East Coast Branch, National Association of Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH), has assembled volumes of material which is available to researchers.  The material has been carefully organized and summarized.  If you are interested in a particular topic, a list of available material can be e-mailed to you.  I would be happy to discuss any research project or provide background for any article.  I am very distressed to see so many of those who share our concerns either writing without facts or using incorrect information.  Since the vast majority of information in our files comes from research by self-identified homosexual persons and their allies, it is a very powerful weapon.  Think of me as a supplier of ammunition in the battle for the family and for the very precious souls who are trapped by deadly lies.  Remember, the facts are on our side.

Some of you may have already received some of this material on an earlier version of Dale's Disk.  Several pieces have been substantially enlarged with new material — in particular section 6 of the AIDS report and "How to prevent homosexuality in boys," and a section on Change were added.  The RTF version contains 364 pages when printed out. 

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The following is from my page ; Making the American berdache: Choice or constraint?


   I have many concerns for this "Article / paper "

                    (in that it seems very one sided, as though the berdache had no say in the matter,especially after puberty,

                            and favors berdache became female roled males-constructed through force by parental or tribal authority, )


        1. Why does the author include Ruth Benedict's view of the berdache,                                 which does not reflect her view of the berdache in "Patterns of Culture", which I               read in mid 90's (still have the book), yet was published in 1934.

 " In most of North American there exists the institution of the "berdache", as the French called           them. These men-women were men who at puberty or thereafter took the dress and occupations     of women.

  Some times they married other men and lived with them. Sometimes they were men with no           sexual inversion, persons of weak sexual endowment who chose this role to avoid the jeers of the   women " - patterns of culture page 263

PATTERNS OF CULTURE, an anthropological work published in 1934 that became one of the most widely read pieces of social science ever written in the United States.

2.   Thought I bought and read " "Patterns of Culture", because Albert Einstein recommended reading it in his book ,

    " Ideas and Opinions" do to his thought that the Pueblos of New Mexico, reflected a great culture. 

      Then I read of the berdache, which I had never heard of til then, I very much related to this Model of the;                                                                                   "institution of the "berdache"

    As I had been lusting, wanting to be back in the girly-boyfriend role again since my divorce in         1990, and knew I was "ripe for the taking" if and when the right individual came along, I had             already been using dildo anally, trying different methods of getting my bottom clean, so I would be   ready when I did meet a man who would put me in my female role I so much desired.

  This time wouldn't come until after I started modeling for " Life Drawing " classes in 1997-98,           when a very attractive young black male asked me if I be interested in performing fellatio on him.

  He didn't have to ask twice, soon I was routinely performing fellatio on him,soon I was begging         him to penerate me anally so he could ejaculate up inside me. As with my first experince at               puberty, he was gentle,kind, yet I was strictly in role to give him sexual pleasure, when,where and   as often as he desired, soon he was introducing me to friends he knew, thus soon I was having       sex in my female role with many. - It was very much by chose, not free-will, by want, even need.

                                                                    I very much believe this to be true; 

                            "A man can do what he wants, but not want what he wants".-Arthur Schopenhauer 


note;  "

You are free to do whatever you desire. But you are not free to choose your desires. Similarly, Marx said, "man" makes his own history, but not under the historical conditions of his choosing. And Mill attempted to secularize the paradox by observing that we are slaves to habit, but can step back and form those habits. We can, in some measure, both rely on causes and effects and intervene between them.

The idea, which arises in many forms, is that "freedom" is indeed inevitably paradoxical. There is no such thing as "absolute" freedom nor "absolute" constraint. There are only indeterminacies and determinations on different levels, of which one may or may not be aware. 

                  I have selected to be celibate for past 14 years, yet I still very much want to be in my female role sexually

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3.  From my point of view; especially now, as I love being a Female roled male, thus it is not so             much in determining why anyone is homosexual,third-gender, but more in society accepting the       fact , that  berdache type have always been part of all of humanity.

      I could say I have desired to be female like, cause of " The Oedipal complex, also known as             the Oedipus complex, is a term used by Sigmund Freud in his theory of; 

                                                    psychosexual stages of development 

      or something related to; Childhood experiences of homosexual men -


"Thompson found that "homosexuals more strongly identified with their mothers and more strongly disidentified with their fathers than with controls." (Thompson, 1973) According to Saghir and Robins' research:

The mother seems to replace the father as the parental model and source of identification. In the vast majority of the homosexual men, identification is reported to have occurred with the mother or with no parent at all during childhood. A majority of the homosexuals describe their mothers as having been dominant at home, making decisions, carrying out discipline and showing greater drive and involvement. (Saghir, p.152) 

Drawing pictures of women

According to the DSM IV, GID boys "particularly enjoy playing house, drawing pictures of beautiful girls and princesses, and watching television or videos of their favorite female characters."(DSMIV, p.533) According to Green:  

When ask to draw a person normally girls draw females and boy draw males, however when "feminine" boys were asked to "a person the majority of the feminine boys drew a female. In addition, when they were asked to draw a picture of themselves, the feminine boys drew a girl. (Green 1974, p.162)  - me


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                            I do know seeing my mother performing fellatio and being fucked doggy style by my step-father, when being                                         awakened in the night by their noises, then peeking in their room to see what was happening was a trauma.

                            I also had told my friend at 13 (first experience) , I wanted him to put his cock in me like my mother was, I knew I                                 wanted to suck his cock like I had seen my mother doing , even though I disliked my step-father very much.

                            I wasn't constructed through force by parental or tribal authority,  yet I am a " berdache type ", by ;

                                                                                          This definition ↓

        " While the Spanish and French originally used the term for male transvestites or the passive partner in sex between males,                   anthropologists later applied the term berdache to American Indians who assumed the dress, social statusopposite sex.<span>While the Spanish and French originally used the term for male </span><a class="md-crosslink" style="font-style:inherit;font-weight:400;text-align:left;text-decoration:underline;text-indent:0px;font-size:100%;" href="https://www.britannica.com/topic/transvestism">transvestites</a><span> or the passive partner in sex &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; between males, anthropologists later applied the term </span><i style="font-style:italic;font-weight:400;text-align:left;text-indent:0px;font-size:100%;">berdache</i><span> to American Indians who assumed the dress, </span><a class="md-crosslink autoxref" style="font-style:inherit;font-weight:400;text-align:left;text-decoration:underline;text-indent:0px;font-size:100%;" href="https://www.britannica.com/topic/social-status">social status</a><span>, &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; and role of the opposite sex." -&nbsp;&lt;a title="britannica.com" href="https://www.britannica.com/topic/berdache" target="_self" rel="nofollow" alt="britannica.com"&gt;britannica.com&lt;/a&gt;;</span>

                    And for along time I have very much desired the surgery; vaginoplasty, to remove my penis and have a vagina.

                                                          -Thus a great desire to be Transsexual in that regard-

                                                                      as I love being a Female roled male

                                                   

                                                                             

Cause of Homosexuality: Poor Parent-Child Relationships by: By Roy Masters

excerpt from ; Cause of Homosexuality:
Poor Parent-Child Relationships

by: By Roy Masters 

Fathers and Sons

Homosexuality is a developmental problem that is almost always the result of problems in family relations, particularly between father and son. As a result of failure with father, the boy does not fully internalize male gender-identity, and develops homosexuality. This is the most commonly seen clinical model. - Joseph Nicolosi, Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality, 1991


              I very much relate , thus took females as role model, thus want to be in female sexual role

Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality / wikipedia

excerpt from above ; Critics faulted Nicolosi's scholarship, and argued that he provided an inadequate discussion of biological influences on sexual orientation and incorrectly viewed homosexuality as pathological; some described conversion therapy as a form of pseudoscience. In 2019, the book was withdrawn from sale by Amazon following a campaign by gay rights activists. Some commentators supported Amazon's decision, while others criticized it as a form of censorship. The book remained available from other publishers. 

Withdrawal from sale by Amazon

Daniel Reynolds reported in The Advocate in February 2019 that the gay writer Damian Barr had criticized Amazon for selling books by Nicolosi, arguing that they were discredited and harmful.[14] Gwen Aviles of NBC News reported in July 2019 that Amazon had withdrawn Nicolosi's books from sale following a campaign by gay rights activists.

                                The Truth hurts, yet if it ain't biological, then we at least can work on problem-me

                                One Question might be ; has homosexuality increased at rate similar to divorce rate

Environment and sexual orientation / wikipedia

excerpt from 

    " 

Family influences

General

Researchers have provided evidence that gay men report having had less loving and more rejecting fathers, and closer relationships with their mothers, than non-gay men. Some researchers think this may indicate that childhood family experiences are important determinants to homosexuality,[29] or that parents behave this way in response to gender-variant traits in a child.[30][31] Michael Ruse suggests that both possibilities might be true in different cases.

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Childhood experiences of homosexual men

FATHERS AND SONS

Childhood experiences recalled;

 

"For example, in one case a patient reported that he always felt uneasy with his father who was like a boarder in the house. The father not only did not touch his son, but did not permit the son to touch his possessions. The son was not even permitted to wear his father's discarded ties". 

"Sipova and Brzek compared 27 transsexual men, 100 effeminate homosexual men and 70 noneffeminate men with 41 heterosexual controls. They found that "fathers of homosexuals and transsexuals were more hostile and less dominant than the fathers of the control group and hence less desirable identification models" and that "the average father of the effeminate homosexual is reported to be harsh and selfish.

a boy who strongly identifies with a father and especially a father who has marked male characteristics, does not suffer from anxiety. Our control group has reported kind, caring and at the same time vigorous fathers endowed with authority. They appear to represent desirable identification models for their sons also in relation to women. It was found that our control group of heterosexual men strongly identified with their fathers... the development of selfesteem in boys is directly dependent on the degree to which the father was committed to their rearing and the strength of the emotional bond with him. The homosexuals and transsexuals in our study manifested selfesteem disorders. (Sipova, 1983)

In looking at parental influences, it is important to remember that timing may be a crucial element. According to Daniel Brown:

It is quite conceivable that there is a crucial period in the early years of a child for establishing the basic capacity for heterosexual adjustment. In this connection, evidence indicates that sex role differentiation and identity occur in most children between the ages of one and one-half and three, and that heterosexual stimulation and responsiveness develop between the third and sixth year of life. (Brown, 1963)

If the father were absent after the boy had developed a confident masculine identity, the effect of his absence on gender identity might be minimal (although father absence could have negative effects in other areas).

Girls as playmates;

 

The DSMIV (p.537) lists "strong preference for playmates of the other sex" as one of the elements that should be considered in making the diagnosis of GID. Homosexual men frequently recall having girl playmates:

I preferred to play with the girls, not because I necessarily liked girls better, but because I preferred cooperative rather than competitive games, nor did I like the anger and aggressiveness on the playground. I really didn't like team things. (Silverstein, p.62)

Not only did Craig avoid the rough-and-tumble games of other boys his age, but he also preferred to play only with girls. His favorite game was to play house. He would take the role of "mother" and insist that one of the girls play the part of "father."(Rekers 1982, p.132) - Childhood experiences of homosexual men / 


 this very similar to my step-father     -me


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  For myself it is much to late to try to change, even if wanted to, and don't feel I could;

        reasons;

                          1. I love being in female role sexually, having a man's penis up in my bottom is greatest feeling for me.

                                  2. I am so psychologically effeminate now, and have no desire to sexually be with a female.

                                  3. I am so enculturated as a Female roled male, I think once I allowed a man to ejaculate up in me, then 

                                      crave it, need it my Role was set.


    I do believe " Dale's Page " is best body of work that really honesty looks at homosexuality, and need for more Aware Parenting

                                                                                            fathersforlife.org              

"Nicolosi  makes an all important distinction: Being homosexual does not mean being gay.... [The author] is to be congratulated for taking up the gauntlet for a much neglected population--the homosexual male who experiences his sexual orientation as ego dystonic and wants to change."

--Elaine Siegel, Ph.D.


Ego-dystonic sexual orientation is an ego-dystonic mental disorder characterized by having a sexual orientation or an attraction that is at odds with one's idealized self-image, causing anxiety and a desire to change one's orientation or become more comfortable with one's sexual orientation. It describes not innate sexual orientation itself, but a conflict between the sexual orientation one wishes to have and the sexual orientation one actually possesses.

                  I personally couldn't be helped by the above therapies as my sexual orientation is far to much part of my being, 

       and I have fully excepted being a Female roled male, yet some people may greatly benefit from Joseph Nicolosi 's concept.

I very much know the Berdache role, the Female role, is only Role I desire