Using the Ego's Power

I was contemplating how our ego's distract us in times of mudane activities,example might be say,"assembly line type work",.."Boredoms". Then how for myself, if I am able to "doodle or sketch",I can overcome the Dysphoria of

Links on Boredom,mudaness Dysphoria

Anhedonia refers to a diverse array of deficits in hedonic function, including reduced motivation or ability to experience pleasure.[1] While earlier definitions of anhedonia emphasized the inability to experience pleasure, anhedonia is used by researchers to refer to reduced motivation, reduced anticipatory pleasure (wanting), reduced consummatory pleasure (liking), and deficits in reinforcement learning.[2][3][4] In the DSM-V, anhedonia is a component of depressive disorders, substance related disorders, psychotic disorders, and personality disorders, where it is defined by either a reduced ability to experience pleasure, or a diminished interest in engaging in pleasurable activities.[5][6] While the ICD-10 does not explicitly mention anhedonia, the depressive symptom analogous to anhedonia as described in the DSM-V is a loss of interest or pleasure.[7] Theorists Sándor Radó and Paul Meehl posited that anhedonia represents an underlying genetic vulnerability to schizophrenia-spectrum disorders.[8]

Dysphoria (from Greek: (dysphoros), δυσ-, difficult, and φέρειν, to bear) is a profound state of unease or dissatisfaction. In a psychiatric context, dysphoria may accompany depression, anxiety, or agitation. It can also refer to a state of not being comfortable in one's current body, particularly in cases of gender dysphoria. Common reactions to dysphoria include emotional distress; in some cases, even physical distress is seen. The opposite state of mind is known as euphoria.

In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort (psychological stress) experienced by a person who simultaneously holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values. The occurrence of cognitive dissonance is a consequence of a person performing an action that contradicts personal beliefs, ideals, and values; and also occurs when confronted with new information that contradicts said beliefs, ideals, and values.[1][2]

In A Theory of Cognitive Dissonance (1957), Leon Festinger proposed that human beings strive for internal psychological consistency in order to mentally function in the real world. A person who experiences internal inconsistency tends to become psychologically uncomfortable, and is motivated to reduce the cognitive dissonance. This is done by making changes to justify their stressful behavior, either by adding new parts to the cognition causing the psychological dissonance, or by actively avoiding social situations and/or contradictory information likely to increase the magnitude of the cognitive dissonance.[1]

Individuals who are non-binary (people who do not identify as male or female) might experience both body and social dysphoria. Non-binary identities are often marginalized, ignored, or written off as "gender confusion." Some people may not even be aware of any gender identity other than male or female, and people who do not conform to societal expectations of gender may be stigmatized, misgendered (sometimes intentionally), and may face harassment. All of these can have a harmful impact and contribute to negative feelings, including dysphoria. -GoodTherapy.org       (this is where ego is trying to be socially acceptable)

 For myself ,I think to posing nude for art classes,help me socially show I was different then normal,much more Fem,then then normal societal role of a "Male",
I think it was 1998,,

I can related to " Two-Spirit " model of transgender for a lot of reasons,,However One that stands out is ,In History of Native Americans,,,They didn't have the Option of Hormone therapy or surgery,,thus their being" trans",is purely " Psychological"


Calm down mind .com:


The biggest confusion for people who get into spirituality is with regards to their “Ego”.

It’s common for spiritual people to consider Ego as negative; but in truth, it’s not Ego that’s negative but thoughts based in fear that are negative.

Ego is Ego; it’s not negative or positive. What you “think” determines whether you are aligning with negative or positive. 

The way I define Ego is that it’s the structure in your brain that gives a “person” identity. It serves a very practical purpose for physical interaction of humans.-calm down mind.com

Get rid of negativity, not the Ego

There is a difference between “Pure Desire” and “Egoic Wanting”- 

Pure desire arises spontaneously from the space of your being. If you simply let go of trying to understand or manipulate the desire, it’s will easily move you towards its manifestation. However, if the Ego tries to force the desire, or judge it, there is an immediate resistance to the movement of life. Remember that the movement of life is activated through a “desire” or an intention and any resistance to it causes suffering.

“Egoic wanting” (or Negative desire) arises from fear. Jealously, contempt, guilt, anger, hatred and obsession, can lead the Ego to “want” a reality which is inherently not in alignment with the “energy” of life. For example, the desire to see your ex-boyfriend, or ex-girlfriend, suffer because they left you, is an “Egoic wanting” (I like to call it “negative desire”). Life will never support you in a “negative desire” because the energy of such a intent is opposite of the energy of life. A “negative desire” has an energy of fear or hatred, while life is based on the energy of love and joy.

A lot of people confuse the term “desire” with “craving” – however they are two different aspects with totally different meanings. Desire is purely a thought of creation (to experience a certain reality), craving is the process of feeling incomplete in the absence of the physical manifestation of the desire and thus suffering this feeling of incompleteness.  

When you rest in your wholeness or your “beingness”, you can have a desire but not “crave”it in any way because you are no longer looking for “wholeness”, or a sense of fulfillment, in the manifestation of a desire – this is a huge revelation for a lot of people who automatically equate desire with craving. When one is not awakened one always associate happiness with the physical possession of a desire – this is what leads to craving, because you stop being happy in the “now” looking for happiness in some future place when the desire gets manifested. When one awakens to their “beingness”, they realize that they are whole right now and they don’t need “anything”, or anyone, to make to them whole – in this state of being, desire can arise in the mind but there is no “craving” in the being. -note I think for myself  being of the Fem-male variety,I have to be aware if I spent to much time craving "actual sexually full filling(get-boned)", to look fem, - stay balanced-


The Ego's Shield - doing a internet search ,I can find little on this-which surprises me-6/23/2018

             Is the state of allowing the same as watching thoughts?  - calm down mind.com

         ♠    "The ego is your armor against the world. The ego is your shield in times of war. If everything is peaceful, if                            everything is harmonious – then where is the need for armor, a shield? You can just relax, that’s all. But you are  used to struggling for everything! We have to create a big problem and then fight with it. This is what your ego wants."--nithyananda.org

          ♠     Reprogramming Your Subconscious Mind (Remove Negative Thoughts)- calm down mind.com

               -Fights Change-Holds on to Addictions-

excerpt from above site ;                  "

    " When you desire to be perceived as the smartest boss, the beloved mom, the best negotiator, the kindest woman, the funniest guy, the most creative writer — fill in the blanks — you allow your ego to take over. You self-identify with a single aspect of yourself — preserving that perfect image becomes a life-or-death matter.

By wanting to keep our illusory-self happy, not only we place hope on an impossible goal but also harm ourselves and others. People are willing to lie, kill, cheat, hide, or steal to protect their ego boundaries. If someone criticizes that ‘perfect side,’ they take it personally — they feel their entire identity is at risk." The Ego Is Not the Enemy