“After you hear and listen. First must come desire. Second must come willingness.
Third should come understanding.
Fourth should come progression and with progression will come more understanding.”
― Hyrum Yeakley
I like the term "Flow State"
This state of one pointed awareness tends to arise when a person gives his fullest attention to a task that he does for intrinsic reasons—that is, the person does the activity for his own sake, rather than as a means to an end.
The activity takes the person’s undivided attention so the mind is totally absorbed in what he’s doing. When you are in the state of flow, your entire being is immersed in the activity and everything seems to be working together in complete harmony.
the activity and everything seems to be working together in complete harmony.
Your performance level is often at its peak, you achieve an optimum level of clarity and focus, yet you’re not thinking about it. You’re not judging every move, you’re not planning your next move; you’re just letting it unfold.
In flow, your ‘ego’ withdraws, making way for the process to happen, unimpeded— you’re not conscious of inhibitions, hunger, thirst, fatigue, aches or anything outside of the activity. All worries, thoughts and memories seem to melt away.
Time flies, but you’ll be completely unaware of it, as if you’ve stepped outside of it for the moment. You become one with what you’re doing in flow. Studies done on athletes in “the zone” – the state of flow – show their brain waves operate similarly to the brain waves of those in meditation.
Flow is a state of meditation— of mindfulness – that you’re experiencing not while sitting quietly, but while fully and completely absorbed in an activity.
Drawing,doodling,creative writing,sign painting,creating something completely new (a object that never existed before) such as painting ,sculpture.Creating new music,writing music,playing music,observing nature,when completely at ease,..anything that can get the monkey chatter out,the ego than goes and takes a Nap
“Never settle in any circle that is not fully committed to forever walk in the direction of endless opportunities and possibilities.”
― Edmond Mbiaka
“Truth is unoriginal.”
― Kamand Kojouri
We miss so much
Michael Posner (psychologist)
Michael I. Posner born September 12, 1936) is an American psychologist, the editor of numerous cognitive and neuroscience compilations, and an eminent researcher in the field of attention. He is currently an emeritus professor of psychology at the University of Oregon (Department of Psychology, Institute of Cognitive and Decision Sciences), and an adjunct professor at the Weill Medical College in New York (Sackler Institute). A Review of General Psychology survey, published in 2002, ranked Posner as the 56th most cited psychologist of the 20th century.[
Overcoming Roadblocks to Empathy
Mirror neurons kick in strongest when we observe a person’s emotions. We see facial expressions, eye expressions, body position, and gestures. We may lack motivation to pay attention to a person or we may be too distracted by our own thoughts or by other things around us while we are multi-tasking.
Motivate yourself to be more empathetic by knowing how important empathy is to success at home and work. Put your PDA and computer away and minimize distractions. Learn about and practice active listening.
Fine tune your nonverbal observation skills. Learn about micro-expressions (small quick facial expressions) and eye reading. Daniel Goleman in his book, Social Intelligence, states that “the more sharply attentive we are, the more keenly we will sense another person’s inner state.”Roadblock 2 - Feeling the emotion of the other person but not knowing how or when to communicate empathetically.
Increase your awareness about your own non-verbal expressions (eyes and micro-expressions). Notice what you are doing nonverbally when you are interacting with others. Ask people that you trust, to give you honest feedback about your non-verbal communication in various situations especially ones that are more emotional.
Notice with whom you have difficulty being empathetic. Examine why.
Learn more about voice tone. Listen to people who are known as empathetic leaders, teachers, friends, politicians, or even TV interviewers. Listen to how they use their voices to express empathy.Roadblock 3 - Not feeling the same emotion of the other person but knowing intellectually that you need to communicate empathetically. This is known as cognitive empathy.
Know that you can disagree with someone and still understand what they may be feeling and why. This is especially important when someone is having a strong emotion and is asking you to do something that you can’t do.
Sometimes just listening without judgment is enough to convey cognitive empathy. Communicate to the person in an authentic way that you understand what they are experiencing.
Can you fake being empathetic?
Sometimes it may be necessary to act empathetically to achieve a desired outcome even when you feel antagonistic to a person. I have trained hostage negotiators for many years. Hostage negotiators are trained to act empathetically toward the hostage taker in order to establish the rapport necessary to influence him to give up and not hurt anyone. In fact, the negotiator most likely despises a person that would hold a woman and baby as hostages. What is interesting is that after a couple of hours many negotiators actually start to feel some empathy toward the hostage taker as a result of “acting” empathetic. Most of us will never find ourselves in that position, but you may need to fake empathy to influence someone to an important end. Hopefully, you won't experience that frequently, because there is often a price to pay for being consistently inauthentic.
Empathy is one of the building blocks of social intelligence. Stress, self-absorption, and lack of time can gang up on empathy to kill it. Knowing what your empathy roadblocks are and exploring ways to overcome them can help you develop a tool that is vital to your success at home and work.
Do you believe people can increase their ability to be empathetic?
Have you increased your empathy skills or helped others to do it? How?
What impact do you believe empathy plays in the workplace?
Do you think some people are too empathetic?